Sameold Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 (edited) So I start talking to this girl, things are good and she is obviously really keen, I ask her out she says yes and picks a date. I'm back at hers on the first night, no sex though as "not on a first date" etc. I leave and all is good, we meet up again and she takes me to one of her favourite places. We go cinema and things seem good the next day too. Then it just starts to go downhill, her texts suddenly become short and lack any real interest. Anyway we had arranged to meet up so I asked if we were still on and we wern't as she had to help her mum. She apologised and said it was short notice as she had to go to a hospital appointment. Then after a few days I asked her straight out if she wanted to meet up again or not, she said yes but she was concerned all my interest was in her job and there was more to her than this...it was an odd thing to say, yes we both had common ground there but if anything she was the one discussing it, not to mention the people she has dated from work etc which was a red flag! Anyway I decided to text her today asking to take her out but on her time off this week she is up north visiting her family. She put a ":(" in her text but to be honest that's a few times she's not been able to meet and she hasn't pro-actively rearranged. To start with she did so I know she's capable of it. For example if I recieved the text I'd have said "well I can't this week but how about next Saturday? x". I have just left it there as saying "no worries", I had already mentioned previously about me feeling like I was chasing her and I don't do that, she assured me that she was just quiet and hadn't been in touch much as she was busy... Anyway, I feel like it is her call to try and sort something now, I wont have seen her for 3 week this coming Saturday, what do people think? I shouldn't have to say "get back to me when you're free etc", "the balls in your court". I can't run the show and keep chasing as it will just make me look crappy. She seems to have a whole bunch of guys chasing her and I can't help but think she's just playing with me a bit, if she was worth bothering with she'd get in touch to some extent and try to rearrange no matter how busy? Edited December 3, 2012 by Sameold
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I'd stop chasing her. Clearly she isn't wanting to talk to you. If so, she wouldn't be short. She should keep plans with you. She might even like the chase. I'd just forget about her. See what happens. 1
Author Sameold Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Yeh she's a funny one because a week or so ago I left it a few days and she sent me a big text apologising for not texting back etc etc. Then I responded with a question and she didn't reply! lol I will have to leave it here because I've genuinely made an effort, maybe too much and I think for anything worthwhile to happen it has to be more mutual. I'm not going to keep chasing her. Saying she is happy to meet up isn't really good enough as when she can't make it then it should be on her to rearrange in my opinion...unless I'm completely wrong! Her text saying she was up north seemed genuine enough but again...that's fine but it should be her that tries to sort another date out.
Ami1uwant Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 You have tried setting up a date a few times. If she doesnt counter offer with an alternate date option she is strining you along...move on from her. 1
Author Sameold Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Thanks Ami, that's as I thought really. I'm very much under the impression she likes to have guys chasing after her too.
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