hdvries86 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hi there, Me and my girlfriend broke up around 9 weeks ago after a relationship of 2.5 years with 2 years living together. I think i'm really going crazy and will never forgive myself of letting her go. She was really stunning and i'm just a normal guy. When we had a relationship we did argue a lot and did hurt her a lot and took her for granted. She is one of the most sweetest, smartests, outgoing and funniest girl I ever met. I tried to convince her to come back but after a few weeks she got tired and changed her number, blocked all communication and told me to leave her alone. This was really a lucky shot for me to get a high class girl like this and I really feel stupid for the things i've done. I can't tell her how I see her anymore and that's make it so hard. I just want to let her know how i really saw her because she thinks I was with her just to be with someone. I know that just ain't true but I allways had problems with telling my feelings. Damn this is so hard and I think i'm never gonna get over this. I'm alone in my house right now and really really mis her company. Does anyone of you do feel the same or give any tips on how to cope with this? Greetings, Henk
na49 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 The worst thing you could have done was try to win her back as soon as you dumped her. You chose to have her out of your life so she is going to have you out of her life, it's not fun being dumped, and it hurts the person getting dumped A LOT. Let time heal the both of you. It's normal to want to try because even though we know it won't work, we do it anyway. Try taking her off the pedestal you have her on, she may have been a great girl, but you're a great guy. Give yourself some credit, and realize that you are just like her. Way to cope with it? Well a lot of us here are in a similar situation to yours. Getting over our exes. Time is the only true way to heal, you can do other things to improve yourself like go to the gym, find other hobbies, just work on yourself. You obviously need to leave her alone, she doesn't need to know how you feel right now. She won't be angry with you forever, eventually you guys will be able to talk but you may never get her back. This isn't a bad thing however, you can now find a new girl who you won't give up on and who will enjoy your company just as much as your ex. Let her live life without you and if she never talks to you again then you'll know where you stood with her.
Author hdvries86 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 The worst thing you could have done was try to win her back as soon as you dumped her. You chose to have her out of your life so she is going to have you out of her life, it's not fun being dumped, and it hurts the person getting dumped A LOT. Let time heal the both of you. It's normal to want to try because even though we know it won't work, we do it anyway. Try taking her off the pedestal you have her on, she may have been a great girl, but you're a great guy. Give yourself some credit, and realize that you are just like her. Way to cope with it? Well a lot of us here are in a similar situation to yours. Getting over our exes. Time is the only true way to heal, you can do other things to improve yourself like go to the gym, find other hobbies, just work on yourself. You obviously need to leave her alone, she doesn't need to know how you feel right now. She won't be angry with you forever, eventually you guys will be able to talk but you may never get her back. This isn't a bad thing however, you can now find a new girl who you won't give up on and who will enjoy your company just as much as your ex. Let her live life without you and if she never talks to you again then you'll know where you stood with her. She dumped me FYI
na49 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Ah okay, even worse, I read "I'll never forgive myself for letting her go" as you dumping her. My bad. Well everything I said still applies, you need to go NC and disappear for a while. She's already tried to make you disappear but if she cared about you at all she'll want to check up on you eventually.
Chi townD Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 When we had a relationship we did argue a lot and did hurt her a lot and took her for granted. She is one of the most sweetest, smartests, outgoing and funniest girl I ever met. Well, there you go! You hurt her, you argued with her (which is a normal thing to happen in a relationship, but not ALL THE TIME). You know you screwed up! Nothing you can do about it now but to learn from it and move on. Apply what you've learned toward your next relationship. Look, she took the bull by the horns and cut all contact with you. That should tell you something. She's not interested. I know it sucks....but it's time to move on. 1
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