FitChick Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 A time sensitive topic! Are the holidays a good or bad time to have a dating profile up? I don't want to waste money. 1. People might feel lonelier and want to make a connection. 2. They might want to avoid meeting someone new in case they are expected to buy a present. 3. If they are dating someone they plan to dump, they wouldn't want to spend any more money on them, so might break up now. 4. They might be more likely to dump someone after the holidays to get a fresh start in the New Year. 5. They might want to bring a date to a Christmas party and wouldn't be as picky. Hmmm, can't decide. Would men and women feel differently about this, do you think?
DC4 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I just put up a new profile last night so I'll keep you posted!
Author FitChick Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Anyone else have insight, opinions or experience at this time of year?
Art_Critic Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 (edited) Hmmm, can't decide. Would men and women feel differently about this, do you think? When I was single and dating I can't think of an OLD date I went on after Thanksgiving. That also goes for asking girls out during that time too... It might just be me but I felt like being around family those last 6 weeks of the year... I was always really busy to during the holidays, work, putting up the tree and lights etc etc that I didn't feel like pulling together the energy to get to know someone. Now.. I have gone on a few new years eve dates from OLD.... Edited December 6, 2012 by Art_Critic
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I try to focus more on family and my life during the holidays than dating, plus they are busy months and November and December go by very quickly....it also reminds me more of the past than the future. I think if you're single, it's definitely easy to get a little lonely and there would be plenty of other people lowering the bar a little to hook up with someone, especially if you want that family one day of your own. But If you start dating someone new in November (in the US) you've got thanksgiving, then you got Christmas in December, New years at the end of that, then you have Valentines Day in February...that's like a quadruple whammy in important dates that could propel your date/love life into a more committed role before one person is truly ready for it...so maybe it's better for women than it is for men But really for me, probably wouldn't be my strongest months in dating between November and February. I think I like to date more in the summer, that's when you can go out in the warm weather (In Cali of course) to the beaches, amusement parks and fairs, there's just a lot to do outside and there's nothing pressing that's going to force things to get to the next level because of a holiday (like buying gifts for each other and bringing them around family/friends/co-workers you might not have otherwise)...which I don't think that's the wisest choice, I've seen a lot of people do that then that person didn't exist the next time around then they've got someone new...which is tacky to me, you should only bring someone you're going to be serious with IMO and if you're just dating them early on you won't know that yet. I won't incorporate someone into my personal life on that level unless I feel they are a really strong prospect, so on the contrary, I'm pretty good at picking women I would be compatible with and like to be with so things end up on a fast track as it is, It would be better that I keep a more gradual pace because I love to be in a relationship during the holidays, rather than dating someone new. So that is my take on it, If I were to start dating someone new during the holidays then I'd probably crank it up more at the end of the month of December, maybe kick it off for New Years...maaaybe, then Id' get stuck doing Valentines Day...which if it's the right girl could be a good thing (but at least you have January to figure that out) I would imagine men being a little more apprehensive about taking a woman they are not that into, in to the holiday months...as well as women, so most people are either sticking it together and just bearing through it for them, or disconnecting the hitch before they get into it, so I don't see the holidays as a great time to pick someone up to date long-term, to fill the loneliness maybe but not for a serious prospect.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Put it up! That way you can meet someone who will potentially buy you a Christmas present! That's what I am doing! I want a Christmas present/ birthday present/ and someone to kiss at midnight on NYE
dasein Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Good to do now if you want NYE plans or Vajayjay Day. Bad if you have burnt out on NYE and Vajayjay Day.
suladas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Considering it's 3 weeks away, if i met someone now i'd buy them either something really small or nothing, and don't even know if it would involve meeting family and stuff. Not sure if it's good or bad time. I don't bother with OLD much now, just seems like a waste of time.
SmileFace Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I personally wouldn't. I rather not start dating someone new from Dec.1 to Feb 15.
suladas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I personally wouldn't. I rather not start dating someone new from Dec.1 to Feb 15. Wow that's a long window.
SmileFace Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Wow that's a long window. I know but I rather not deal with the holidays. I mean if I get a date naturally sure but I am not going to put up a dating profile during this time. You are lucky I didn't include Thanksgiving but I will more than likely spend that with family if I am not working or at a shelter doing some charity.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 When I was single and dating I can't think of an OLD date I went on after Thanksgiving. That also goes for asking girls out during that time too... It might just be me but I felt like being around family those last 6 weeks of the year... I was always really busy to during the holidays, work, putting up the tree and lights etc etc that I didn't feel like pulling together the energy to get to know someone. Now.. I have gone on a few new years eve dates from OLD.... This was my experience too! When I did OLD, it was pretty quiet in November/December, but I was swamped with interest and dates in January/February. A lot of people it seems, make a New Years resolution to be in a relationship or to find someone. Things start to pick up right after Christmas, and really get super busy starting on January 1st.
Author FitChick Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 When I did OLD, it was pretty quiet in November/December. A lot of people it seems, make a New Years resolution to be in a relationship or to find someone. Things start to pick up right after Christmas, and really get super busy starting on January 1st. That is my feeling, too. Also, the men I date are divorced and usually have kids, grown or not, so they will most likely be visiting kids and grandkids. I think I'll wait.
jcrew11 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Some studies have shown its a good time, because people have vacation and time off from work to actually focus on their love lives. People can actually spend a few hours sending and responding to e-mails and IM's. If you are lonely, then you will also find other single and lonely people to spend the holidays with.
carhill Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Back when I used paid OLD, I always did it (opened a new account) right after New Years. I noted that November and December brought fewer responses, ostensibly due to other distractions, like family get togethers, travel and Christmas parties, etc. so discontinued during those periods. Perhaps things are different now.
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