meanddaguys Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 So my boyfriend of about 4 months has all of a sudden pulled back. When I met him he was at the beginning of a divorce. All though he said he had been done for about a year. The divorce was final about 2 months ago and he has 2 kids that he gets every Monday and Tuesday and every other weekened. I have 3 kids and get them every other week. Anyways, we have been going strong, happy loving and enjoying everything about each other until right after Thanksgiving. He got distant and said he loves me and cares about me and does want to still see me but he is swamped with work, and kids and family pulling at his strings and he knows that right now he can't give me all the time I deserve. Now at the beginning I told him I was worried that he would get to the freak out point because I was there 4 years ago. He kept saying I have nothing to worry about but now I am not sure if I do. He still calls me every day, comes to see me, it has just slowed down just a little. Is this that he is slammed at work and missing his children and the Holidays making him sad and distant, or is he starting to pull away to stay away? When he is with me its like everything is the same and nothing has changed. We also have keys to each others places so I'm confused can someone help please
Treasa Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Give him all the space he wants. Enjoy December as much as possible with your kids and try your best not to think about him or make plans or do anything with him. Reassess after New Years. I honestly would never get involved with a guy going through a divorce until it was final for at least six months to a year. No contact says A LOT and will reveal a lot.
Author meanddaguys Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Thank you for that. I have never gotten involved with a man going through a divorce for this reason. This just became such a great powerful thing and our chemistry in all aspects is amazing. He came out to where I was yesterday and hung out most of the day and said "I love you" just like he always has. He called me this morning before work and still calls in the evenings as well. I was married for 8 1/2 years and divorced 4 years ago. My ex was engaged before our divorce was final and married 2 weeks after it was final. He has been with her since. That doesn't mean I ever want to go that route but I have never felt so strongly for someone and hate that I put myself in this position.
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