Elpida Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hello, I met this guy on-line, and we were communicating for about 2 weeks, every day. Then we had one date and he smsed me straight away how good it was to meet me, with the sms to follow every single day too. He has 2 small kids living with his ex girlfriend, and he is very busy with his work. He was hinting very heavily to meet for fun only, and I was not sure if this was enough for me. Plus we met only once, and I was rather uncomfortable to be intimate/ send personal messages so soon. So I kept replying as we met/ kissed only once I would like to get to know him a bit better before having fun or anything like.Then after few days he sent me 2 sms, one was how much he was looking to see me again, and another, just 50 min later, that his heart was not 100% in it, and he is not sure/ too analytical so it is better we leave it. So I am rather confused. Did he dump me so suddenly as I was not saying yes to a practically bootie call so soon, or he found somebody else, or was I being too difficult? To be honest, I was very tempted to say yes but I wanted to make him wait for a little bit longer, get to know him a bit more... Now I am blaming myself I pushed him away... I am oh so tempted to sms him but it would be even more painful if he says no again... I am still hoping he will change his mind and contact me...Perhaps all this sounds silly but I miss him... I would appreciate any advise... Thank you!
KatZee Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 It's not rocket science. He wanted a booty call, you were saying you weren't comfortable with this situation and you wanted more. So he left. He's not looking for a relationship or for something he needs to put effort in. There are plenty of women out there who do nothing but meet up to have sex and then leave. Sounds like this is what he wants. 2
mammasita Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Wait, does he live with is ex or were you saying his kids live with his ex?
Author Elpida Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Thank you... His (really young kids) live with his ex. He loves them and try to visits them as often as possible. I also noticed he called his ex as his girlfriend, not his ex girlfriend. I just wish he would not persue me so much when he could see I wanted more... I suggested him to end it few times even before we met but he said he could not get me out of his mind...
mammasita Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Thank you... His (really young kids) live with his ex. He loves them and try to visits them as often as possible. I also noticed he called his ex as his girlfriend, not his ex girlfriend. I just wish he would not persue me so much when he could see I wanted more... I suggested him to end it few times even before we met but he said he could not get me out of his mind... Well bottom line is he will only do what you allow him to do. It does sound like all he wants is sex and I'm going to go out on a limb and say that he is STILL in a relationship. My theory is, you weren't as easy to bed as he would have liked so he's moving on to the next piece of ass. You did nothing wrong and were not being difficult at all, you've only known him 2 weeks for goodness sakes.
Author Elpida Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Ironic, is not it, that he left when I was about to change my mind and say yes to a fling... and I have a feeling he knew it. Well, guess hurts now but better for me in a long term... Thank you!
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