sugar32288 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 My ex and i dated for 5 months, he broke up with me a month ago because of poor communication between us, because he was very stressed from work, and because he has trouble dealing with his emotions. His work has now gone back to normal and i know the feelings are still there. We had a wonderful relationship for the first 4 months, but our relationship suffered when he started working 7 days a week. We spoke two weeks ago and he said he has very strong feelings for me but he just doesn't know if it feels right. He said he will be second-guessing his decision for a very long time. I'm still convinced it didn't feel right because he was too immature (he is 25, I am 24) to put work into a relationship and because he was very stressed from work. There is so much potential for us had we even talked about our issues, which we didn't at all because we both are not so communicative. We met 2 days ago for me to get some clothes back. I was happy and confident and he looked so sad. We caught up for 30 minutes and when i said I was going to leave, he asked me to stay a little longer. We continued chatting and he just looked so sad. He pulled me to lay down with him and he proceeded to hug, cuddle, and cling to me for 2 hours. He was holding my hand and rubbing my back and staring at me. Eventually he asked to kiss me and I didn't say anything. He continued to hold me then we kissed each other for a long time. We did have sex. He held me tightfor a long time after and kept kissing my cheek and holding my face. As we were laying there, I told him not to worry, that I know this didn't change anything. He replied that he doesn't understand why I think things are so simple. We held each other for a bit longer then I got up to get my coat. He kissed me passionately for a bit more then walked me out and kissed me again. What do I do now? I love him very much and I know he has feelings for me, but I don't want to scare him away by talking about getting together. He really is bad with dealing with his emotions and shows how he feels through physical affection and touch. I don't know if I should contact him and ask if we should talk about what happened, ask him out to see a movie, or just do nothing.
Treasa Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Basically you're being there when he wants sex and cuddling, but you're not really in a relationship. He's using you. You are fulfilling temporary needs. Are you ok with that? I wouldn't be. I think you should walk away from this and not see him again, unless you want to keep getting hurt. A lot of people are stressed from work. Is this really behavior that's ok with you? Someone who will bail on you every time things get rough? What if you had a child that was born with Downs Syndrome? F him. 1
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