reachstan Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hi guys, I go daily to the park for a jog, I seen this beautiful older lady( im 22, she might have been in her late thirties) .i have seen this lady before and she does a lot of exercise (she is Indian so,she is a bit conservative in that case!) So, I approached her saying " hi, hello mam, may I ask if you are an athlete ?I have seen you run pretty fast . so she replied" no" . the I asked her if she goes to the gym and if she new any good gyms in the area, then she said " why are you asking me so many questions? I replied I just wanted to know how good the gyms in the area are, and then sensing her discomfort I left. The thing is I am really attracted to her, I want to try again and pursue her . So I thought I should this- Apologize to her the next time I meet her saying Im sorry for intruding or making her feel uncomfortable, - may be this should make her feel a bit gilty, and give me a second shot ? I want help as to how I should continue after that, after apologizing how to converse with her further? what should I ask her? I need to keep the momentum!! help pls!
NateC Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hi guys, I go daily to the park for a jog, I seen this beautiful older lady( im 22, she might have been in her late thirties) .i have seen this lady before and she does a lot of exercise (she is Indian so,she is a bit conservative in that case!) So, I approached her saying " hi, hello mam, may I ask if you are an athlete ?I have seen you run pretty fast . so she replied" no" . the I asked her if she goes to the gym and if she new any good gyms in the area, then she said " why are you asking me so many questions? I replied I just wanted to know how good the gyms in the area are, and then sensing her discomfort I left. The thing is I am really attracted to her, I want to try again and pursue her . So I thought I should this- Apologize to her the next time I meet her saying Im sorry for intruding or making her feel uncomfortable, - may be this should make her feel a bit gilty, and give me a second shot ? I want help as to how I should continue after that, after apologizing how to converse with her further? what should I ask her? I need to keep the momentum!! help pls! From what you've posted, don't bother. She's not interested and didn't even want to talk to you. I mean, you could try, but I'm doubtful anything would come with it.
Nightsky Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hi guys, I go daily to the park for a jog, I seen this beautiful older lady( im 22, she might have been in her late thirties) .i have seen this lady before and she does a lot of exercise (she is Indian so,she is a bit conservative in that case!) How dare you look at this woman like a piece of meat! haha I'm just kidding with you please go on with your lovely story. Also please tell me you're also noticing all they young ladies around town too! So, I approached her saying " hi, hello mam, may I ask if you are an athlete ?I have seen you run pretty fast . so she replied" no" . the I asked her if she goes to the gym and if she new any good gyms in the area, then she said " why are you asking me so many questions? I replied I just wanted to know how good the gyms in the area are, and then sensing her discomfort I left. Good job having the balls to approach her and make some noise. I'm not a fan of calling women mam. You should have called her miss or maybe nothing at all. Just been like "Excuse me" or "Hello" or "It's a Beautiful day." Yes, I think I like the last one best because it's kind of like you're calling her beautiful lol. Mam is just kind of weird, I used to use it when people would piss me off in customer service because in my head I thought them hearing mam might piss them off. The you were all like "may I ask if you are an athlete" you should have just asked if she was an athlete and not been so weird about your question. Also you should have probably asked a question that was more open ended. I mean the point was to get a small conversation started. You don't necessarily want to ask yes or no questions. Maybe that's another reason commenting on the weather would be good, its obviously flirty and it would give her a chance to comment about the weather not that she would. Now your follow up of are there any good gyms in the area... hmmm I guess that was good. Not really flirty but open ended. You should have expected her discomfort though, I mean most women are shy so being approached is going to make them even more shy. You shouldn't have just been all "gotta go now." How about "it was pleasure talking to you see you around!" Also she may have wanted to continue talking. I mean she could have said "well I gotta go bye" than run off and than you could have said the "bye it was nice chatting with you." I think you got scared! The thing is I am really attracted to her, I want to try again and pursue her . So I thought I should this- Apologize to her the next time I meet her saying Im sorry for intruding or making her feel uncomfortable, - may be this should make her feel a bit gilty, and give me a second shot ? I want help as to how I should continue after that, after apologizing how to converse with her further? what should I ask her? I need to keep the momentum!! help pls! Just be yourself and flirt. You know say silly stuff, maybe tease her, than ask her out on a date. It isn't exactly rocket science. In fact please don't over think this. Do not apologize for making her feel uncomforatable that would be really lame. In fact you're making me really uncomfortable at the idea of this weird apology so I can only imagine how it would make her feel. Like I said girls are shy she might have been enjoying it. Really I've made plenty of girls uncomfortable, scared, what ever only to have it work out. wink wink. Any ways just go for it. Don't call her mam. Don't apologize. Be bold. Flirt. Ask her out. Understand theres a good chance she's married, seeing some one, or just going to say no because of your age or any reason. Just go for it because you like her so much and leave it at that. Also if you're only going for her because she's so much older and you think she's easy... DON'T! At your age 22 you'll have much better chances with the sexy 18 year old than the sexy 35+ year old. You'd probably have more fun... but if you really have the hots for this woman go for it! Just make her feel young, don't call her mam or mention her being older or anything. Just act like you didn't notice and make no mention of it if she brings it up.
Author reachstan Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 How dare you look at this woman like a piece of meat! haha AHAhAH thats one reply , thanks for the advice! But how do I approach her again ? she will try to let me off! should I complement her on her clothes or shoes ?? the next time I see her?
truth_seeker Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I don't think you should approach her. Instead just smile and say hi to her in passing. Keep this up for several weeks. Then try approaching her again. She'll at least be familiar with you. Also consider she could be married or in a LTR.
Nightsky Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 AHAhAH thats one reply , thanks for the advice! But how do I approach her again ? she will try to let me off! should I complement her on her clothes or shoes ?? the next time I see her? I already told you do the weather thing, Just say the weather is beautiful. Just flirt man, I can't give you a script, I mean I could but that would be lame. Ask her out. The sooner the better. Do not call her mam, and do not bring up last time or start apologizing. Also tell me are you asking other girls out too? You know like the girl who works at the coffee shop or what ever who is your own age and hot? I mean you can't get all obsessed with some women 10+ years older than you and make her your only option. But yes ask her out the next time you see her! Good luck.
Author reachstan Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 I already told you do the weather thing, Just say the weather is beautiful. Just flirt man, I can't give you a script, I mean I could but that would be lame. Ask her out. The sooner the better. Do not call her mam, and do not bring up last time or start apologizing. Also tell me are you asking other girls out too? You know like the girl who works at the coffee shop or what ever who is your own age and hot? I mean you can't get all obsessed with some women 10+ years older than you and make her your only option. But yes ask her out the next time you see her! Good luck. Hell yea I am asking younger women out too!, but I prefer older women at times ! lol I don't know why! ill approach her next and let u know what happened!
sanjana4u Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Hi guys, I go daily to the park for a jog, I seen this beautiful older lady( im 22, she might have been in her late thirties) .i have seen this lady before and she does a lot of exercise (she is Indian so,she is a bit conservative in that case!) So, I approached her saying " hi, hello mam, may I ask if you are an athlete ?I have seen you run pretty fast . so she replied" no" . the I asked her if she goes to the gym and if she new any good gyms in the area, then she said " why are you asking me so many questions? I replied I just wanted to know how good the gyms in the area are, and then sensing her discomfort I left. The thing is I am really attracted to her, I want to try again and pursue her . So I thought I should this- Apologize to her the next time I meet her saying Im sorry for intruding or making her feel uncomfortable, - may be this should make her feel a bit gilty, and give me a second shot ? I want help as to how I should continue after that, after apologizing how to converse with her further? what should I ask her? I need to keep the momentum!! help pls! You must try in your own way and try to be more sensible and logical in your second meeting and its a good idea to start with an apology.
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