EC Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 I'm going nuts. Ok here's the problem.. I have my best friend that I've known for four years and then theres the bf that I've had for 5 months. My bf leaves to college next week 8 hours away bestfriend stays here with me. I spend a lot of time with my bf right now because he's leaving. He has a brother and his brothers girlfriend and us double date almost every weekend and I am spending more time w/ his brothers girlfriend. I still would talk to my bestfriend on the phone at least 5 times a day and I would make something up to my bf and hang out with her sometimes. Well the other night I was talking to my bestfriend on the cell phone when my other friend called on the house phone. Well I told my bestfriend I would call her back and hung up. The next day at work I call her to see hows shes doing because she was sick and she's like 'You f*cking b*tch!" Woah! I was like where did that come from? she said it was because I hung up with her to talk to my 'new friend' well I hung up on her because I do not by any means deserve to be called a b*tch and she never apologized so I was playing the waiting game now. The thing is my b-day is tomorrow and me and her have been planning it for a while and now I'm mad at her so she's not going but the new girl is. I Miss my bestfriend but I just can't get the hate in her voice for that one second out of my head. I want her to go and she just wrote me an email saying it was her last attempt to contact me and that she was jealous and stuff but I read the email twic and no I"M SORRY. Thats all I want. So I don't know guys a part of me wants to call her make it all better and tell her to come to the party but then a part of me says I will be a hypocrite because I will still be mad and the other girl will be there too and its my brithday I want to have a fun night out not a jerry springer episode. What do I do?
Papillon Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 Prolonging the issue is pointless. Call her up, or go visit her, cry a river, tell her you love her, and that she's your best friend ever, hug her and kiss her if you can, and tell her that the party won't be the same without her.
DerangedAngel Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 You guys have been best friends for four years, tomorrow is your birthday - she should spend it with you! She totally reacted rudely, but she has tried to contact you saying she was just jealous, which I believe is an apology (lacking the actual words "I'm sorry") of a hurt friend. Think of it this way: You're going to make up. Your friendship isn't over. Right? So if a week from now, after not seeing her on your birthday, you make things right, won't you wish that you would have taken the next step and called her? -Deranged
Taken_Angel Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 I read your other post similar to this one a couple days back (if I'm not mistaken) Anyway on this.....I think she was really wrong for calling you a b1tch and should have apologized. I can understand her feeling bitter over you spending so much time w/ your BF's brother's GF and not her BUT obviously she should realize that you have other friends in your life not just her. You should either call her or email her and tell her how it made you feel that she called you that and that she didn't even have the decency to apologize (but then again they say "don't say something unless you mean it") so maybe she's not ready to apologize yet. As far as your birthday goes......it would be very selfish of her to expect you not to include your other friends as well or did you two have plans for just the two of you? If so then I guess I can see how that would bother her as well. Either way I don't think you should let this go on for a long time....it's better to fix things now so it doesn't just sit there and fester and become something really rotten between the two of you. Good luck!
amerikajin Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 It's hard for me to get a sense for how it all started. When you hung up on her, did you just hang up on her in a rude way? Whatever the case, she certainly should never have handled any issues with you in such a derogatory manner. That was completely uncalled for, and you're right to be upset with her. However, she may have felt that you were just taking her for granted. Maybe she has some self-esteem issues - not that this is an excuse, but this could explain why she reacted the way she did. I think you should pick up the phone and call her and address this with her directly. Tell her that on the one hand you realize you may have upset her by hanging up, but at the same time, let her know that she had absolutely no right to say that, and that this is the last time you'll hear those words from her mouth ever again if you two are to remain friends.
Author EC Posted August 10, 2004 Author Posted August 10, 2004 She does have major insecurity problems and I know that but still I just never thought she would lash out on me like that. I wrote back to her email in a mean way saying how she hasnt even said I'm sorry or anything and then I read your posts and I can't take the email back. I can't hit unsend because she has a yahoo email account. So I wrote her an email saying forget the last email lol and I love you and lets just forget the whole thing. Those words were so true "the party will not be the same without her." I hate putting my pride aside but w/e like I always say life is short and I already let her know how hurt I was. I hope she responds nicely and forgets the first email I sent.
Pocky Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 Seems like a rather petty thing to say over someone getting off the phone. I'd just send her an email asking her if she was going to spend your birthday with you since it'd really suck if you didn't even get to spend it with your best friend. Then when the drama dies down talk to her about why she got so pissed off and explain that you didn't like the way she talked to you.
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