lastone Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 (edited) Hi this is my first post and I'm not sure if this is the correct forum for this but here it is. I am in a situation that I've never had to deal with before. I am happily married so I'm not sure why i should care but I do. I am a very out going and friendly person by nature but as my husband said " I cant flirt my way out of a wet paper bag." I am not offended by his comment because its very true so please don't bash him for saying it. Anyway, it seems that as of lately that I'm getting hit on everywhere I go. I didn't realize it until some friends pointed it out. I asked the ones that have witnessed it if I'm in anyway flirting back or indicating that I am open to this and they all said that they didn't think I knew how to flirt. ( basically siding with my husband.) Now this is where I'm confused. Although I do talk to almost anyone, I always have so I don't understand why this is just now happening. I would understand if a few men misconstrued my friendliness for flirting but this is completely new and seems to happen every where. My friends and I had a girls day a week ago and it happened the whole time and it has been happening for probably 6 weeks or so ( this is when it was first pointed out to me.) Now I'm not naive, I do recognize when someone is flirting but I've never noticed it before and as its been pointed out to me, I couldn't return the flirtation even if I tried. Can anyone else tell me why guys would suddenly start flirting when its never happened before. I asked my husband the same thing and his reply was " its because you are an amazing and beautiful woman. why wouldn't men flirt with you." I guess my question is, Am i giving off some sort of vibe that I'm not aware of or what? Now don't get me wrong, in a way I'm flattered but number 1: I wouldn't return the flirts even if I could and 2: Why now? Ive been the same for as long as i can remember. Plus, I'm not going any place different then usual. Same stores, restaurants, banks, same job for years but its recently a new occurance. Edited December 3, 2012 by lastone
Mr. Lucky Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 It might be as simple as this - when you're happily married, you have someone else in your spouse that thinks you're pretty wonderful and your self-confidence and self-esteem are at a high level. And to a casual observer, someone secure in their own skin can be an attractive thing. Hence the hits and flirtations. The opposite is also true. If you seem desperate and needy, the opposite sex tends to run in the other direction. Your H seems like a smart guy and takes it as you should - as a nice compliment to his wife... Mr. Lucky
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