TaurusTerp Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 why not grow a pair and actually say so? am i a mind reader? This is just how dating works - people are cowards and dislike confrontation. Frankly you're lucky you're not trying to date women - it's much worse. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I just got a different version of ignoring me: Me: "do you want to see me again?" Him "I don't know." Me: "Can you tell me why?" Him: "I don't know. I don't know what to say." Me:"Do you think we lack physical chemistry?" Him:"I am not sure that's the reason. I can't put my finger on it. I just don't know"
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 DO NOT DO IT. I have had guys do it to me, trying to insult me and write angry e-mails after I rejected them. The longer and more in depth e-mails, the more it was obvious how hurt they were. Their words kind of just washed over me and had no meaning... He will just think that you are crazy. yeah fair point. LOL guys don't leave girls alone. are you saying you'd rather be single more than a relationship? Are you shy? Awh Anabelle I could pinch your cheeks! If I wasn't afraid of losing my fingers...sad face* remembers last time looking at hands* You'll miss too much wanting people to leave you alone no intimacy ouch..... no i wont. ive had so much grief because of men and what men decide they want/ need. i dont want a relationship again. there is no such thing as a nice guy imo, and im angry i let my guard down after doing so well recently. LOL ladies! I will be blunt: guys ignore girls cause it gets to them better than any words...and it does. Words won't hurt as much as cold silence. its damn rude though. i cant believe people play nice guy and then act so nasty. its so rude! have some respect! This is just how dating works - people are cowards and dislike confrontation. Frankly you're lucky you're not trying to date women - it's much worse. im sorry but i wouldnt dream of treating someone like that. guess my morals/ values need changing. im clearly not sufficiently equipped against the world. I just got a different version of ignoring me: Me: "do you want to see me again?" Him "I don't know." Me: "Can you tell me why?" Him: "I don't know. I don't know what to say." Me:"Do you think we lack physical chemistry?" Him:"I am not sure that's the reason. I can't put my finger on it. I just don't know" so rude. seriously. just grow a pair and speak your mind. i am so SICK of guys that play the so called nice guy. jesus. what is wrong with people?
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 They also might want to keep the door open if they run out of other options. When they fade or say "I don't know" -it's easier to come back. If they say "I don't want to see you again because there is no spark" or something, they know the door is closed. It's selfish and manipulative behavior. 1
meandmyself Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 They also might want to keep the door open if they run out of other options. When they fade or say "I don't know" -it's easier to come back. If they say "I don't want to see you again because there is no spark" or something, they know the door is closed. It's selfish and manipulative behavior. This applies to both genders ....
mammasita Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 He doesn't deserve the negative attention, I'm pretty sure he already knows he's a douche and the negative attention only feeds his dysfuntion. I hope you didn't message him!
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 They also might want to keep the door open if they run out of other options. When they fade or say "I don't know" -it's easier to come back. If they say "I don't want to see you again because there is no spark" or something, they know the door is closed. It's selfish and manipulative behavior. its disgusting. some people have some nerve!!!!!! This applies to both genders .... i wouldnt dream of doing this honestly. its just ridiculous. He doesn't deserve the negative attention, I'm pretty sure he already knows he's a douche and the negative attention only feeds his dysfuntion. I hope you didn't message him! i didnt! thanks to the people on this forum. i would have if i hadnt have posted here before. i hope he does know he's a douche. sincerely. what a creep. grrrrr.
ascendotum Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 This is just how dating works - people are cowards and dislike confrontation. Frankly you're lucky you're not trying to date women - it's much worse. This happens to guys all the time. Either in conversations online that seem to be going great until she ignores you or with a date where you think things are going great then she ignores you for whatever reason. Its just the nature of dating that people want to avoid confrontation or giving a reason as to why they now are not interested in you. When it happens to women like this, its the same story just not as common because the guy normally is the pursuer so it means he has done a u-turn for some reason.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 This happens to guys all the time. Either in conversations online that seem to be going great until she ignores you or with a date where you think things are going great then she ignores you for whatever reason. Its just the nature of dating that people want to avoid confrontation or giving a reason as to why they now are not interested in you. When it happens to women like this, its the same story just not as common because the guy normally is the pursuer so it means he has done a u-turn for some reason. sorry you have to put up with it i guess. the only guys ive ignored are the ones that act like this then come back a few months later. it is really frustrating, id really like some insight into what i said/ did wrong. a few of these people id have considered friends had they not acted like such bastards. just because you dont see a relationship with someone doesnt mean you cant just be friends. shame guys think with their crotches above all else isnt it really.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 My "I don't know" guy pursued me for 6 months, only to pull this crap once I was interested. WTF.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 My "I don't know" guy pursued me for 6 months, only to pull this crap once I was interested. WTF. im so sorry. id be so angry in your shoes! i sympathize.
meandmyself Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 My "I don't know" guy pursued me for 6 months, only to pull this crap once I was interested. WTF. Did you slept with him? maybe he already got what he wanted...
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Annabelle girls do it too. It seems one sided but it isn't. Human nature is evil, no? Destructive. You might be tired of it but you give. Up a lot. One day you might get someone good. You may have to go through a lot of bad. what has past bfs done to you? Did they treat you as an object? Most guys do that...well boys but not men. Boys who might be of man age but aren't. 1
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Annabelle girls do it too. It seems one sided but it isn't. Human nature is evil, no? Destructive. You might be tired of it but you give. Up a lot. One day you might get someone good. You may have to go through a lot of bad. what has past bfs done to you? Did they treat you as an object? Most guys do that...well boys but not men. Boys who might be of man age but aren't. 7 yr relationship guy cheated. dated a long time friend after that, he turned out to be after sex only, and then told everyone we had slept together etc etc when we hadnt after i said i wasnt rushing into it. then another guy that was a fairly good acquaintance more or less did the same thing. swore off guys for a while, then this prat came along. im fed up of it. and i appreciate your viewpoint but i dont know any girls that think with their crotch.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I think that those guys that pursue you like that are just in it for conquest...so they lose interest when they have "won" you over. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I don't certainly always think with my crotch either myself. There is always an urge yes? I never treated my ex who done me like a dog and would ignore me like a sex object. Yes I enjoyed making love...but not as the main thing.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 My ex musta thought with her crotch...after all she didn't mind sleeping with well over four different dudes on me. I can name them Women can be just as horny and pervy as guys...this day and age proves that LOL. Screw-overs know no gender. I'm glad you are waiting must girls won't. But take a look at the world round us. These days girls dress rather skimpy and sex is over-glorified. Ofc its gonna make dudes think girls are meat when they dress so...well...its like dangling raw meat in front of a wolf: you're gonna get biten. Men are the same as always. Lots of bad and desire for sex...but women have caught up LOL.
BetheButterfly Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Why give him the satisfaction of knowing he's got a rise from you? Agreed. I don't think it's the best idea. Why do that? If you want to get out your anger, buy a punching bag and enjoy!!! Or, go to the gym and tackle those mean ole weights! 1
BetheButterfly Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 May I suggest a latin scorpio? I would recommend a latin cancer, like my husband.
ScreamingTrees Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 ahhh star signs. im a capricorn and i generally shut people down and ignore them. guess im annoyed by this pre-emptive strike perhaps? its probably not worth it. but what a dickhead, seriously. i was fine, felt fine about myself, ths is the exact reason i stopped dating. then this dweeb came along and has me questioning everything again. grrrr. Doesn't sound like you're too sure of yourself, if one erratic creeper has you questioning your worth.
charlietheginger Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Maybe he picked up on your anger Issues said i best keep away from her.... Serious i had coffee with a lady that Really bad mouthed the last few exbfs She had... After that one date i decided she Would prob say nasty stuff about me if We had a relationship.... 2weeks later got a text "goodluck finding Someone better then me ahole ".. Men have something called intuition i do... I dont care if she is pretty if i aint feeling It i aint feelin it.... One thing guys get turned off is if a women Appears clingy possessive or fake acting
lino Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Be thankful you aren't a bloke, this happens to them all the time. Just forget about it and move on.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Maybe he picked up on your anger Issues said i best keep away from her.... Serious i had coffee with a lady that Really bad mouthed the last few exbfs She had... After that one date i decided she Would prob say nasty stuff about me if We had a relationship.... 2weeks later got a text "goodluck finding Someone better then me ahole ".. Men have something called intuition i do... I dont care if she is pretty if i aint feeling It i aint feelin it.... One thing guys get turned off is if a women Appears clingy possessive or fake acting i am not taking any advice from someone that chooses to write forum messages like he is writing a poem not only is it really annoying it detracts from what you are saying which coincidentally is irrelevant and also annoying. fin. 3
AlexDP Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 someone stop me. i know its a bad idea but i just want to send a really vile message. this is the creep that pursued me like it was going out of fashion then gave me 20 questions at dinner then has the cheek to ignore me/ blank me from there on in. im surprised how much this has got under my skin tbh. i didnt want to date him or anyone else. i was doing so well. i feel like this guy has made a complete idiot out of me. i know its probably a bad idea but i just want to tell him exactly what i think. stop me? or shall i just do it? Women are so easy. Pursue, ignore, repeat.
charlietheginger Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 i am not taking any advice from someone that chooses to write forum messages like he is writing a poem not only is it really annoying it detracts from what you are saying which coincidentally is irrelevant and also annoying. fin. its not irrelevant be glad he is gone Chances are something didnt connect better now then later
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