annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 someone stop me. i know its a bad idea but i just want to send a really vile message. this is the creep that pursued me like it was going out of fashion then gave me 20 questions at dinner then has the cheek to ignore me/ blank me from there on in. im surprised how much this has got under my skin tbh. i didnt want to date him or anyone else. i was doing so well. i feel like this guy has made a complete idiot out of me. i know its probably a bad idea but i just want to tell him exactly what i think. stop me? or shall i just do it?
iiiii Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Why give him the satisfaction of knowing he's got a rise from you? 1
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 I hate to spoil it for you but men find even the most angry letters or text messages to be underwhelming at best. You're extremely unlikely to get the response you're after. Especially since he apparently doesn't give a **** to begin with. By the way, how are you enjoying being ignored after going out on a date? i dont want a response. i literally want to say he is a ****ing arsehole. why not just be honest? he had the opportunity to be honest and decided to bull**** his way out of it.
movingon12 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Nooooooooooooooooooooo! Don't give him the satisfaction of thinking you care what he thinks about you. Really. Don't. Walk away with your head held high and let him get annoyed that you don't seem bothered that he's not calling. 3
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Why give him the satisfaction of knowing he's got a rise from you? im having a battle of wills because of this. on the one hand why should he like you say, but on the other, i have nothing to lose. i absolutely loathe being ignored/ made a fool of. why should he get off so lightly?
MrCastle Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I'm a Scorpio so I burn bridges all the time. Haven't regretted it yet. Everyone who got it deserved it. That being said--is it really worth it?
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Nooooooooooooooooooooo! Don't give him the satisfaction of thinking you care what he thinks about you. Really. Don't. Walk away with your head held high and let him get annoyed that you don't seem bothered that he's not calling. i know you're right. i do. im just pissed.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 I'm a Scorpio so I burn bridges all the time. Haven't regretted it yet. Everyone who got it deserved it. That being said--is it really worth it? ahhh star signs. im a capricorn and i generally shut people down and ignore them. guess im annoyed by this pre-emptive strike perhaps? its probably not worth it. but what a dickhead, seriously. i was fine, felt fine about myself, ths is the exact reason i stopped dating. then this dweeb came along and has me questioning everything again. grrrr.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 What did he do other than take on the role of the female by ignoring you after he didn't find the date to be satisfactory? its more the fact i wasnt interested and he hassled me for a friggin month to go out with him. i stopped dating because of this kind of stuff, i was generally quite happy. now im questioning exactly what i did wrong, which i hate. as for the ignoring, he had the opportunity to bow out gracefully and decided to lie and make out that there was nothing wrong. as a woman, id have took that oppportunity to be polite and say yeah actually not interested see ya bye.
MrCastle Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 ahhh star signs. im a capricorn and i generally shut people down and ignore them. guess im annoyed by this pre-emptive strike perhaps? its probably not worth it. but what a dickhead, seriously. i was fine, felt fine about myself, ths is the exact reason i stopped dating. then this dweeb came along and has me questioning everything again. grrrr. Don't let one guy taint your view of dating. People do that all the time on here and it's made them miserable. Drop this loser, be glad you saw his true colors earlier rather than later, and move on to someone else. May I suggest a latin scorpio?
meandmyself Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Nooooooooooooooooooooo! Don't give him the satisfaction of thinking you care what he thinks about you. Really. Don't. Walk away with your head held high and let him get annoyed that you don't seem bothered that he's not calling. Agree... if you send a txt to this guy calling him names, etc He will hold on it as a trophy. I promise you he will show it to his friends and say... look I have her begging for my bones! So don't send him anything!
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Don't let one guy taint your view of dating. People do that all the time on here and it's made them miserable. Drop this loser, be glad you saw his true colors earlier rather than later, and move on to someone else. May I suggest a latin scorpio? haha. scorpio. say no more! its not just this one guy though, everyone ive dated since my r/ship ended 2 yrs ago has just ended with disappointment. thats like 4 people. id love someone to be honest and explain what i do wrong. im polite, i pay for myself. im pretty, im educated. im just really fed up of attracting these kinds of guys.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Agree... if you send a txt to this guy calling him names, etc He will hold on it as a trophy. I promise you he will show it to his friends and say... look I have her begging for my bones! So don't send him anything! if he has friends.
movingon12 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 The best revenge you can get, is to leave him with a nagging feeling - for the rest of his life - that maybe you were the one and he let you get away because you couldn't accurately remember the date of your last loan payment. He won't have this feeling about you if you send him an abusive email. It's also possible that he will never think about you again, but if that's the case, NOTHING you can say to him is going to make him think anything more than 'phew, dodged a bullet there!' 1
ascendotum Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hey annabelle, how do you not know that one or more of your answers to his 20 questions did not agree with him as for your suitability for him? Guys flunk on this a lot when it comes to women delving into their life more, and deciding something is a red flag or a deal breaker. Maybe some other girl he was interested in a little bit more than you suddenly became available or decided to give him another shot and he followed up on her. "G - What did he do other than take on the role of the female by ignoring you after he didn't find the date to be satisfactory?" this is along the lines of what I was thinking too.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 The best revenge you can get, is to leave him with a nagging feeling - for the rest of his life - that maybe you were the one and he let you get away because you couldn't accurately remember the date of your last loan payment. He won't have this feeling about you if you send him an abusive email. It's also possible that he will never think about you again, but if that's the case, NOTHING you can say to him is going to make him think anything more than 'phew, dodged a bullet there!' true. well thats a nice way to look upon it. thank you. Hey annabelle, how do you not know that one or more of your answers to his 20 questions did not agree with him as for your suitability for him? Guys flunk on this a lot when it comes to women delving into their life more, and deciding something is a red flag or a deal breaker. Maybe some other girl he was interested in a little bit more than you suddenly became available or decided to give him another shot and he followed up on her. "G - What did he do other than take on the role of the female by ignoring you after he didn't find the date to be satisfactory?" this is along the lines of what I was thinking too. this is what i dont understand about guys - you seem to make up your minds awfully fast. im quite open minded with people. this red flag business - i could have so many of these on people. you cant know someone from a few conversations.
TaurusTerp Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 this is what i dont understand about guys - you seem to make up your minds awfully fast. im quite open minded with people. this red flag business - i could have so many of these on people. you cant know someone from a few conversations. Most people make up their minds very fast, it's not specific to men or women. You're just different. This guy didn't really do anything assholish - he thought he liked you, got a date, discovered you actually weren't what he wanted, and stopped calling. That's pretty standard in the world of dating.
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Most people make up their minds very fast, it's not specific to men or women. You're just different. This guy didn't really do anything assholish - he thought he liked you, got a date, discovered you actually weren't what he wanted, and stopped calling. That's pretty standard in the world of dating. why not grow a pair and actually say so? am i a mind reader?
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Anabelle dear... You should cease worrying over this jerk and focus on your next venture towards better things. He is ignoring you and it is over. In my opinion, from what I learned, ignoring a girl, always seems to get to them worse. You say something to him he will just think you're nuts. This outcome will not be good for you...when did the uncaring start caring when you tell them off?Now Annabelle don't make me /bite you I have mean e-bites! 1
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Anabelle dear... You should cease worrying over this jerk and focus on your next venture towards better things. He is ignoring you and it is over. In my opinion, from what I learned, ignoring a girl, always seems to get to them worse. You say something to him he will just think you're nuts. This outcome will not be good for you...when did the uncaring start caring when you tell them off?Now Annabelle don't make me /bite you I have mean e-bites! lol. i know you're right. its just so frustrating. why cant people just leave me alone to begin with? i dont like being messed around. just stay away haha.
tbf Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 If his intent was to keep him on your mind, he's succeeded. Any contact from you will be a win for him. He's hooked you. Then it will be time to reel in the fish. Avoid this guy like the plague. Move on and find a guy who doesn't game you. 1
Author annabelle26 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 If his intent was to keep him on your mind, he's succeeded. Any contact from you will be a win for him. He's hooked you. Then it will be time to reel in the fish. Avoid this guy like the plague. Move on and find a guy who doesn't game you. i dont understand the logic though. he is on my mind, but im angry. i think hes a jerk. i hope he gets back in touch just so i can ignore him. and im not sure such a guy exists.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 DO NOT DO IT. I have had guys do it to me, trying to insult me and write angry e-mails after I rejected them. The longer and more in depth e-mails, the more it was obvious how hurt they were. Their words kind of just washed over me and had no meaning... He will just think that you are crazy.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 lol. i know you're right. its just so frustrating. why cant people just leave me alone to begin with? i dont like being messed around. just stay away haha. LOL guys don't leave girls alone. are you saying you'd rather be single more than a relationship? Are you shy? Awh Anabelle I could pinch your cheeks! If I wasn't afraid of losing my fingers...sad face* remembers last time looking at hands* You'll miss too much wanting people to leave you alone no intimacy ouch.....
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 LOL ladies! I will be blunt: guys ignore girls cause it gets to them better than any words...and it does. Words won't hurt as much as cold silence.
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