domple Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hi everyone, as some of you know I have been seeing this girl for a month and for some unforeseen reason I don't want to be with her for the simple reason I don't want to be with her. She is fun, just an great person all round and yet I can't seem to feel anything for her. I have only know her for a month and she was the woman on my ideal list and ticked every box (bar that's she's fat but is going to the gym to loose it all a hell of a lot). I just can't explain it and what makes it weird is when I take about breaking it off with her I tear up. How can you feel nothing for someone and break down like a little child. In the past this never happened. In a way I feel like I feel nothing yet I catch myself saying I love her in my mind (too early to say that). My mind is doing everything in its power to push me away from her but when I am going to I just cry and I don't get it. I'm a 31 year old male. I've had advice from there's no spark to just end it, you do love her you just can't see it yet. Yet I feel she's similar to me in so many way, maybe too similar (different personality) yet the values are the same to the core. I'm seeing a hypno phycologist tomorrow (been to her a couple of times for a few issues) to sort out my baggage, I feel like I should love her and its ment to be yet I feel nothing for her and others. I've told her all of this to sort my issues out and she said that I am amazing and is willing to wait and that she understands. Normally I am the one supporting my partner and this is the first one who said "I'll be here waiting for you"
Author domple Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 I take it that no one knows then?
Robert Z Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 You feel nothing when you cry? Really? It sounds more like denial than the inability to feel anything. Is it possible that the idea of a serious relationship scares you so you convince yourself that you feel nothing? If are you crying but feel nothing, then you definitely should be seeing a shrink. Sounds like you still have some serious baggage.
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