cantbef Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 my boyfriend broke up with me a week and a half ago. he was high and had 2 beers (despite knowing that i hated drugs) and when i tried to talk to him he shoved me against a doorknob and pushed me onto the ground. he had given me a locket for my birthday and i had worn it everyday for 8 months and finally i took it off and gave it to him. he destroyed it with a knife and snapped the locket in two and stabbed holes in it. he wouldn't stop crying and he was slightly suicidal and took the knife and tried cutting his arm with it and stabbing himself with it and he wouldn't stop until i jammed my arm in between the knife and his arm. i stayed with him and hugged him for 2 hours to try to get him to stop crying and finally at about 4 in the morning he stopped and then he told me that i was amazing cuz i was still taking care of him even though he had hurt me so much. he then went on a massive speech about how perfect i was and how it was why i should leave him and find someone who was more worth my time. i needed to go to the bathroom and after making sure there was nothing he could kill himself with around him, i left for about 3 minutes and when i came back he hugged me and said that he loved me and that he never wanted to leave me even though he should. i told him it was ok and that everything was fine and we went to sleep and he hugged me the whole time. 4 hours later we wake up and he again won't even look at me. he checked my back to see if there was a bruise from the door he shoved me against and then he took me aside and said he didn't want to hurt me anymore and that every time he looked at me he would remember how in a day he hurt me more than he ever should in a lifetime. i tried to tell him that it was ok and that he was out of it yesterday and that i understood and that as long as he didn't do it ever again i could forgive him. and then he just kept saying no and eventually he went on to tell me that he didn't love me anymore. so i was pretty upset so i went home, two days later he asks me to go watch a movie with him. it was like a date, he wouldn't let me pay for the tickets and we shared a drink and popcorn and sometimes he would hold my hand and had his arm around me but then it was like suddenly he would remember something and would go back to acting all cold and stuff. he said he really likes talking to me and would be really happy if we could stay friends. we still talk everyday and i still love him a lot. he's giving me all these mixed signals sometimes he says he likes me as more than a friend and then ten minutes later he would say that he hates me. he's a little antisocial and doesn't talk to anyone and he says i'm the only person he's talked to since we broke up... i don't know what to do. should i just forget him or should i just keep hoping that he still likes me and that he'll still want to see if things can work out a second time? am i reading his words wrong or am i just being overly hopeful cuz i don't want to let go? someone help me please!!!
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 He's carrying a lot of baggage sweetheart. I know you care for him. But look: 1) he tried to hurt you(never do that to a girl.) 2) he is on drugs(he's unpredictable). 3) his emotions are out of control! He must be bipolar or have bpd! I learned a lesson about hope in these cases: the more you old out hope...the more painful it will be. It is not worth it. I sense disaster if you keep around this Guy. This isn't gonna end like a movie...If he hurt you, pulled a knife out at your pendant...what will he o next? Will that knife be for you? Do not be a foolish girl and go back to bruises and abuse...or death. He needs to work on himself and fix painful internal problems. You cannot help him...he needs professional help. Get off drug too. I warn you, cause I see this a lot: only misery is waiting for you...
Author cantbef Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 thanks, and i'm not sure if this is just me trying to put him in the best light i can but he doesn't do drugs anymore, he said that drugs really made him do stupid **** and he's never ever hurt me before he used to be the sweetest although you're right i do think he's a little bipolar...
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 thanks, and i'm not sure if this is just me trying to put him in the best light i can but he doesn't do drugs anymore, he said that drugs really made him do stupid **** and he's never ever hurt me before he used to be the sweetest although you're right i do think he's a little bipolar... I understand. He was high though, LOL, whether one believes it or not weed is a drug you smoke. Not on the same levels as others ofc. It enhances certain states of mind(mood). But anyway... That's how it is. Always sweet at first. He def. Seems bipolar. Obvious you care for him...but in these cases you gotta think of your own health. Listen well: Never NEVER be with or tolerate a man or boy who will hit you. Its unmanly and wrong. Stay away. Do not give in to sweet nothings or otherwise. Eventually move on. Please be careful...unstable people could hurt you - I wouldn't want to see that happen to you. A pretty girl as yourself shouldn'tbe treated this way.
Author cantbef Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 He wants to get back together..... I want to but im not sure how silly that decision is from a rational point of view...
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