mysteryscape Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 If she's looking on OKC for new guys, she's looking. Not just slowing things down with you -- that would be easy, of course, she doesn't need new guys for that. You should wait for her to contact you, and if she does, seriously consider telling her you've moved on. In the meantime, move on internally -- don't go looking for someone new right away while you're still pining over the old one and/or hoping she'll come back.
Under The Radar Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 *UPDATE* In an unexpected turn of events, she texted me back. Basically explained she still likes me but thought we were moving way too fast and needs some time to "process" it. Were we moving too fast? I guess it's subjective. Had several dates, no sex, didn't even kiss her until #3. Taking it as "well let me date some other guys and get back to you". Not sure what I'm going to do if she wants to go out again, we'll see. My OKC account is toast but if I google her username I can see (from a not logged-in status) that she is online, and basically is all night if I check once every several hours. Yep, you are her backup plan - I'd move on.
gaius Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 A week later, she's back on OKC, LOL. She must have been messaged by Captain America or some other dreamboat. Or maybe just a guy who wouldn't take her out in a horse and carriage. I don't know any women under 40 who would consider that their idea of a good time. Maybe as a marriage proposal but one month in? She probably had to put on an oscar worthy performance to not hurt your feelings. If she ends up coming back around, don't try so hard. Just take her out on some normal dates and have a good time. Don't ever mention you like My Little Pony either.
NiceGuyDTW Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Don't know if everyone is serious damage, but an awful lot are. Face it, we get damaged by life. And I think OLD attracts people who've failed IRL. I'm not saying everyone, but an awful lot of them. My experience with OLD was that there were a lot of women who were dishonest, or neurotic, or very flaky, or all of the above. And guess what, I also exchanged email with quite a few who dropped off of OLD because it was turning out to be just a time-waster for them. Some of these I'd include in the above categories, and some I just don't know enough about to say. But I don't know any women personally who've said it worked out well for them. I think this is somewhat correct. I was on match for a whole, and stopped for about a year. When I got back on I noticed that the women I saw in there a year ago were still on, and still very active. Many changed their pics...many added more "slutty" or skin revealing pics. I think for many OLD is like window shopping at the mall. They just bounce from one store to another...looking for at deal or thing to make them happy. Once they are bored with what they bought, they get back on to get their next fix. It's like a drug.
Tara247 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Op, it happens often. It's the nature of the beast.
truth_seeker Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Don't know if everyone is serious damage, but an awful lot are. Face it, we get damaged by life. And I think OLD attracts people who've failed IRL. I'm not saying everyone, but an awful lot of them. My experience with OLD was that there were a lot of women who were dishonest, or neurotic, or very flaky, or all of the above. And guess what, I also exchanged email with quite a few who dropped off of OLD because it was turning out to be just a time-waster for them. Some of these I'd include in the above categories, and some I just don't know enough about to say. But I don't know any women personally who've said it worked out well for them. You're 100% correct.
truth_seeker Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I think this is somewhat correct. I was on match for a whole, and stopped for about a year. When I got back on I noticed that the women I saw in there a year ago were still on, and still very active. Many changed their pics...many added more "slutty" or skin revealing pics. I think for many OLD is like window shopping at the mall. They just bounce from one store to another...looking for at deal or thing to make them happy. Once they are bored with what they bought, they get back on to get their next fix. It's like a drug. YES! I checked out match in 2010 because I knew a couple of buddies who were doing it. I saw some cute girls but it wasn't enough for me to sign up and contact them. Fast forward 2012. I check it out again and I see women who were there back in 2010. wtf?! I find OLD from my experience to be a haven for unstable people. 1
IT Geek Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 It sux that OLD is so flaky because that's pretty much my only chance of meeting someone. I have no clue how to start a conversation with a woman and am deathly afraid of actually asking someone out in person or on the phone because of all the rejections I've had in the past. 1
NiceGuyDTW Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 It sux that OLD is so flaky because that's pretty much my only chance of meeting someone. I have no clue how to start a conversation with a woman and am deathly afraid of actually asking someone out in person or on the phone because of all the rejections I've had in the past. That's a piss poor attitude. You need to be able to have a conversation with a woman no matter if you do OLD or not. It's tough but you need to overcome your fear, it is probably the reason why you're getting rejected. Keep your head high, and talk to women just for the hell of it without any expectations to get your confidence up. Over time it will get easier.
Sith Apprentice Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Get a text saying "Hey, you're really nice blah blah but I'd like some space". Reactivate my OKC out of curiosity and she's Online Now! lol. Sounds like she found another cock and now you're tail lights. 1
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