Sox Man Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 so, if any of you have followed my posts, I'm still trying to get over a woman who is recently divorced and she works on my floor. we have a history together, and I still have strong feelings for her. We used to text almost every day, and went out weekly. For the past month or so, we don't communicate outside of work. When we do at work, she's all flirty and happy when we see each other. Today, we ran into each other at a running event in our town, and she cheered me on at the end, and was all sweet and friendly the entire time. A few minutes later a mutual friend texted wanting to know if I was going to this woman's party tonight. I knew nothing about it, and I'm really hurt. Even though things have changed between us, it's just assumed by all our friends, that I was invited like all the other times before. Here is someone I still care deeply for, and thought she was a good friend. Is it wrong for me to feel hurt, and if it is, how should I handle this? She acts all sweet to my face, but doesn't think enough of me to invite her to her place with all our other coworkers. Don't mean to sound like a puss, but my feelings are really hurt. People have told me, she just needs time, and is just confused. Well, ya know what, so am I!!
aed Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 so, if any of you have followed my posts, I'm still trying to get over a woman who is recently divorced and she works on my floor. we have a history together, and I still have strong feelings for her. We used to text almost every day, and went out weekly. For the past month or so, we don't communicate outside of work. When we do at work, she's all flirty and happy when we see each other. Today, we ran into each other at a running event in our town, and she cheered me on at the end, and was all sweet and friendly the entire time. I didn't read your post's but you to where casual dating? A few minutes later a mutual friend texted wanting to know if I was going to this woman's party tonight. I knew nothing about it, and I'm really hurt. Even though things have changed between us, it's just assumed by all our friends, that I was invited like all the other times before. Here is someone I still care deeply for, and thought she was a good friend. Is it wrong for me to feel hurt, and if it is, how should I handle this? She acts all sweet to my face, but doesn't think enough of me to invite her to her place with all our other coworkers. Don't mean to sound like a puss, but my feelings are really hurt. People have told me, she just needs time, and is just confused. Well, ya know what, so am I!! No it is never WRONG to feel hurt! It are your feelings and you are applied to them! That some people will say you are overreacting is possible. ( But i begin to think people respond like that automaticly when I guy is insecure and feels hurt by a women's action.) But If the two of you where dating and you are trying to get over her, she has done you a favour by not inviting you! Because you could get your hopes up when she did. Also I wouldn't invite an recently ex to a party. Only when I hope to get together! If the two of you weren't dating, then she doesn't think of you as someone that is close to her. In both situations her being friendly and flirty means nothing. When people are in love or really like someone, just a longer look can be intepretated as: WOW she is probably in to me. Also I have allot of direct female colleques and most of them acted flirty at some point and al 98% are super friendly. Being flirty and friendly doesn't always means they want to hook up with you (at least in my experience). So my advise would be: take your lost! And stop focusing on this girl. You will only get hurt more.
joli_doll Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Maybe she read your post about the last time you attended one of her parties, lol. Sorry, I just had to I read some of your other posts to offer my best opinion and to be honest I got a little disoriented. One of my close friends just went through a similar situation. The woman ended up apologizing to him for anything he misinterpreted and that they were nothing more than friends. Regardless of that being your case or not, it seems you are highly invested in this relationship and create issues with your own connotations. For your own sanity take some action to put yourself out of misery. My suggestion is to ask her if there is anything between you two and get a clear understanding once and for all.
Under The Radar Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 No, there is NOTHING wrong with being hurt over not being invited to her party. If her feelings aren't mutual, and the relationship dynamic has changed, it is understandable why she wouldn't have told/invited you to the party. However, that being said, I'd feel badly in your situation too. Don't feel like you are a "wuss" for having residual feelings for someone you really cared about.
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