Rach27 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I found out my husband of 14 yrs,father of my 2 kids,and best friend was cheating on me. I found the text message on his phone from the OW on Oct. 13 and to find out they have been texting one another since the end of Aug. I confronted him about it and at first he told me lies then the truth came out. We were staying at his moms at the time bc we were building our dream home. I think staying there did put stress in our marriage. I moved out if his moms house on Oct 18 and he moved in with her the same day. I did the whole begging and pleading with him until the first of Nov but stopped bc i realized it was pushing him away further. He still denies their relationship and says he doesnt stay there all the time but yea right!! He has not filed for divorce yet and when I ask him he has not he only says I dont know very sincere like. I want my husband back and I know i shouldnt but this blind sided me. Of course we had our problems and living with his mom didnt help anything but I still love this man. I just dont want to give up on our marriage even though he did. What ate the chances that he could come back? What are the chances of their relationship lasting? I think she does it out of spite but post pictures of them together on her FB page. She is so ugly. We use to make fun of her now he is with her!! This is driving me crazy. I just want my husband and life back!!
Author Rach27 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Sorry to confuse anyone. No my husband was my best friend. The OW was NOT a friend of mine. And my husband move in with the OW. Hope that clears everything up.
Artie Lang Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 don't beg or plead. he has to "want" to come home.
Ninja'sHusband Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Hmm, if you want him back...well I think you just have to let go. It's your best shot actually, and maybe you'll realize you are better off anyway if he doesn't come back. I'm going to recommend a book, "Divorce Remedy". A lot of people here will tell you about the "180", which really just means doing the opposite of whatever you were doing before if it wasn't working...but people have redefined it as being pretty much a summary of everything in Michele's book all globbed together. Her website is DivorceBusting.com. It's a really good book actually. I was able to turn my wife around from ready to walk out the door to being back into the marriage. I think it took about 6 weeks (though we were still living together). In the end I dumped her since she wouldn't give up a class that OM goes to...anyway...book...good...no guarantees though.
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