Seperated Now What

[beesosweet]

My husband and I have been seperated for 3 months. We have three beautiful kids 8 year old boy and 4 and 3 year old daughter. He told me he has been unhappy for a while. I asked him why did he not saying anything about his unhappiness and he did not have an answer. A week later I asked him to come home and he said he is happier. My husband said that he does not know what he wants but he knows he does not want to be married.Two weeks later, I find out that he is living with another women. I told him he left his family to be with this new chick and her four kids. He said he left me and not the kids. I told him he did leave the kids because he barely around and does not call the kids. I have known this man for 11 years. We have been through many ups and downs. I have been praying about our marriage and have accepted his need of space. What is next?

[Sisyphus2012]

I think he is being dishonest with you.

 

He was probably not being honest for a while.

 

I get so pissed off over guys like this, I have busted my ass in my marriage, never cheated, abused, or was addicted to anything and my marriage is crumbling.

 

Im a guy by the way, and Im telling you if I were you, I would move on, the man has severe issues, starting with being a liar, and philanderer.

[jf2good]

Why did you and your husband separated in the first place, that isn't a fix to the marriage. If he doesn't want you, he doesn't want you, but it doesn't make it right to shack up with another women while still married, he needs to divorce you first. I am not saying that from some pedestal, but from my own mistakes. Giving him space isn't going to fix the marriage, nor can you force him back into it and have good results.

 

Does he have the kids visit him, stay over and spend time at his new place. Do the kids have their own cell phone for him to call them daily? Sounds as if he is failing to be a father and a husband. He can give up the husband part, but he should never give up the father part.