motl1987 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 This is my first ever post on any blog of any kind. But here goes... My now ex and I had been dating for 3 years. During our relationship it was constantly up and down. Both of us allowed our emotions to get the better of us on many occasions and this inevitably lead to problems. Breaking up and getting back together was a constant thing and never took much longer than a couple of weeks to accomplish. However, about 2 months ago I broke up with her over baby talk around some of my work associates. We have argued about this topic in the past and was the one big issue we did not see eye to eye on. We were living together and were ok for about a week but she went through my wallet while I was asleep one night. She found a condom and immediately freaked out. I was not planning on using it really it just was a safety precaution just in case some night got out of control. We got into a fight and she kicked me out. That would seem to be the end but like in typical fashion we started going back at it again over getting back together. This time it was different. She told she had met someone while we were dating at a gym class of hers and he randomly facebooked her and asked her out shortly after I moved out. She went out with him to distract herself and soon began to tell me she liked him and didn't know where her head was about her feelings. It has constantly been up and down...We would talk and have emotionally charged conversations which would end with her saying she hated me and never wanted to talk to me again. I found out that about 3 weeks after we broke up she was already sleeping with him. While she's out with him she has texted me that she knows she wants to be with me it just isn't time yet and she wants to see where this goes with him. I've been so hurt and confused. The wednesday before Thanksgiving I asked her if she was going to go home for the holidays and she said she had planned to leave that wednesday but had decided to stay to finish some paperwork she had to do. I though ok sounds reasonable but later that evening I saw her out with him for her last date before the holidays. She openly lied to me and I went off. I called her a liar and freaked out. She said she didn't want to throw it in my face but this comes after she tells me she has been sleeping with him for a couple of weeks. She lost it and said she never wanted to speak with me again. She isn't interested in being friends and she hates me and I haven't heard from her in 2 weeks. I realized during this that she is the one I want to be with but now we can't even talk. I don't know if she truly has moved on or if she really does hate me. I don't think I could be friends right now with her anyways but I want her to love me again and I want us to be back together. I'm devastated from this whole situation and I don't understand how someone can just give up those feelings after 6 weeks. I've heard from everyone I've talked to to give it time and space and while that sounds all nice and good it really is hard not to. I don't want to see her hurt or find herself in a bad situation. I just want to know that there is a chance to make this work and what I can do about it. Thanks for any replies
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 She's playing games. Block her. Remove any form of communication. She is stringing you along. You and her cannot workout. Especially since she jumped boat so fast. Don't let her make you a cake.
Author motl1987 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 It really has been 2 weeks since we've talked. I'm pretty sure she is in North Carolina with him right now...I'm not over this relationship...I don't understand how you can be with someone for 3 years and then just like that be with someone else....she says they aren't in a relationship and while she may not call it that I'm sure he feels that they are...I've done my part in pushing her away...I should've backed off and let her miss me and now I don't know if she ever will...I'm tired of feeling alone and empty....how can she go and be happy, or at least pretend to be, while I'm stuck here being miserable? I just want to understand how she could do this to me without any consideration for my feelings
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