na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Another week, another "hey" text from my ex. And all of the guilty feelings and twenty questions start all over again. I was watching football and didn't have my phone next to me but she sent it a while ago. I know not to respond, she's probably just bored and wants to talk to me right? I'd imagine if it was anything more she'd say more then just "hey".
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 It means nothing treat it as that. Why haven't you blocked her #? You need too..
Author na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 For some reason I'm waiting for her to really annoy me to block it. One "hey" text a week doesn't really affect me as much as breadcrumbs texts. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 LOL. I think you're not blocking her because you are hanging onto a thread of hope for something that shouldn't be there.
Author na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 LOL. I think you're not blocking her because you are hanging onto a thread of hope for something that shouldn't be there. That is so true >__> hating this, I was ready to block her tomorrow and then I get a text and it just sets me back. I guess I also like the small ego boost I get whenever I see her trying to contact me and me ignoring it. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 That is so true >__> hating this, I was ready to block her tomorrow and then I get a text and it just sets me back. I guess I also like the small ego boost I get whenever I see her trying to contact me and me ignoring it. So be it. You will double your hurt and triple your depression. Forget the ego. Forget the hopes that she is sorry if she where...shed tell you in person or a phone call. You're setting yourself back. You're your own misery ATM...
Author na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 Well I'm done feeling depressed, maybe still a bit hurt. Do you think she's just yanking on the chain to see if the dog is still there? I mean that's the only thing that I can think of. She clearly doesn't want to talk to me that much because she is the type of person who would send another text like an hour later if you don't respond.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Well I'm done feeling depressed, maybe still a bit hurt. Do you think she's just yanking on the chain to see if the dog is still there? I mean that's the only thing that I can think of. She clearly doesn't want to talk to me that much because she is the type of person who would send another text like an hour later if you don't respond. Yeah. She's yanking your chain. Stringing you along. But unfortunately you are letting her. You cannot move on with her texting you. Even if you got another girl and she saw that...it would be over...you are chaining yourself to misery(her) and allowing her to Yank you.
Author na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 You're right.. and every time I feel good that I ignore her, then I look to see if there is a followup, like if she really wants to talk. There's none. Am I almost afraid to move on? I'm only a month into NC and eventually I have to get sick of this right? Two more weeks until the semester ends and I won't see her anymore, once her number is blocked she'll really be gone from my life (something that should be seen as a good thing seeing as how she had no trouble getting me out of her life). Do you think I'm just having trouble accepting that?
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 You are having a hard time letting her go. In tine it will get better.
Hopeful714 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Obviously she does want to talk to you or you wouldn't be getting weekly texts. If someone didn't answer my text I wouldn't keep texting them every hour. If your holding on for some kind of "hope" as you said, respond and offer to talk. You are the one playing games by making this girl beg yet you don't tell her not to contact you anymore or block your phone. I'm thinking you like the ego boost. NC is supposed to be to heal ..when its OVER. This is not over or there wouldn't be contact. Why can't people just communicate their feelings whether they be what the other person wants/does not want to hear? This is games. Work it out, or end it. Quit making her lower herself by begging. 1
Hopeful714 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Read the post Dyzfunctioned just wrote titled "it's over". That's the way it should go. These bad endings just cause confusion, hurt, and most likely problems with your next relationship. COMMUNICATE in a positive way. It will only help both of you. And help YOU in the future. Good Luck:rolleyes:
Author na49 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 Obviously she does want to talk to you or you wouldn't be getting weekly texts. If someone didn't answer my text I wouldn't keep texting them every hour. If your holding on for some kind of "hope" as you said, respond and offer to talk. You are the one playing games by making this girl beg yet you don't tell her not to contact you anymore or block your phone. I'm thinking you like the ego boost. NC is supposed to be to heal ..when its OVER. This is not over or there wouldn't be contact. Why can't people just communicate their feelings whether they be what the other person wants/does not want to hear? This is games. Work it out, or end it. Quit making her lower herself by begging. Well she may want to talk because she is over me. I'm not over her yet so nothing she tells me will make me feel better. She is happy with her new boyfriend? Has never loved life more since she dumped me? Hearing those things won't help me heal. What will help me heal is not knowing ANYTHING about her life which I have done a good job of doing this past month. She isn't begging for anything. One text this week and last week that just says "hey" and acting like I'm a stranger when she sees me doesn't seem like begging for anything. She stays friends with all of her ex boyfriends, and probably just misses having me as moral support. I can't be friends with her now because I'm not over her yet. I do enjoy the small ego boost, and I admit that but it gets old pretty quick. She's done this before and when she asked me what I was up to, I told her and she sounded uninterested and gave me some bland response.
denxnis Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Don't block her, just stay strong and maintain NC. Blocking her shows her that you went out of your way to block her; remember you don't have 30 seconds to spare for this chick because you are too busy enjoying your amazing life as a single male.
Hopeful714 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 If that is the case, then for your own good you need to tell her "I'm sorry I can't be friends now because I am trying to heal and move on. Your continued contact is not helping me and I prefer we do not talk anymore at this time." Explain you enjoyed dating her and wish her well. Then go NC. I wish though you would do this via "talk on the phone" as opposed to text. I know you may hear things you don't want to hear but as long as you don't think she will be mean or hurtful to you I think you may benefit. As said earlier, I promise you will NEVER regret positive endings...ever. It is the bad ones that f*** you up in your next relationship. If only I had someone who gave a s*** about my feelings and ended it properly...I'd be feeling sooooooo much better by now instead of still feeling like s*** 3 months later!!! Again, good luck...do the deed...have the talk!
Author na49 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 If that is the case, then for your own good you need to tell her "I'm sorry I can't be friends now because I am trying to heal and move on. Your continued contact is not helping me and I prefer we do not talk anymore at this time." Explain you enjoyed dating her and wish her well. Then go NC. I wish though you would do this via "talk on the phone" as opposed to text. I know you may hear things you don't want to hear but as long as you don't think she will be mean or hurtful to you I think you may benefit. As said earlier, I promise you will NEVER regret positive endings...ever. It is the bad ones that f*** you up in your next relationship. If only I had someone who gave a s*** about my feelings and ended it properly...I'd be feeling sooooooo much better by now instead of still feeling like s*** 3 months later!!! Again, good luck...do the deed...have the talk! I honestly don't know how she'd react. The last conversation I had with her a month ago didn't end in a positive manner. We went at each other a bit (well she was trying to insult me). She was mad I was ignoring her when I really was busy. I told her I didn't know what to say to her so I wasn't saying anything. Then I got pissed and told her not to tell me about her new boyfriend (which she was doing) because I don't appreciate it and that she should tell one of her other friends instead. She told me her new friends are better than me anyway and I haven't spoken to her since. It's been a month and clearly I've cooled off a bit, I don't know if I'm ready for the positive ending yet, I think I need to be over her more then I am now. I see her tomorrow and guarantee she'll act like I'm a stranger again. Which makes her contact so confusing. Does she want to talk to ME or just want someone to talk to because she's bored? I know that she has tendency of doing the second because she did it when I was dating her.
Hopeful714 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 Ok...now that I understand what type of girl we are dealing with... I understand and its most likely best you just ignore, or send a decent text telling her to leave you alone. Sorry you have to deal with an ass***e. Its the worst. You should not be subjected to hearing about the new BF or her cruelty. But if you ever do talk to her, always keep your cool and be nice. Let her be the idiot. You will never regret it. Sorry I misunderstood the situation.
Author na49 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 (edited) Ok...now that I understand what type of girl we are dealing with... I understand and its most likely best you just ignore, or send a decent text telling her to leave you alone. Sorry you have to deal with an ass***e. Its the worst. You should not be subjected to hearing about the new BF or her cruelty. But if you ever do talk to her, always keep your cool and be nice. Let her be the idiot. You will never regret it. Sorry I misunderstood the situation. Yeah.. Sadly she is a little bit on the immature side (although she'd never admit it) and has insisted on insulting me even when I mean well. Last month I sent her a text pretty much saying that I want to be civil so we don't have to act like strangers. She said "umm i'm actually enjoying not talking to you, bye" I didn't respond and she called me the next day and opened up pandora's box for a week until I called it quits and I've stuck to it. I agree, why should I have to hear all about him and the "cute" little things she is doing for him? She got really upset when I called her out on that but like really? Did I mention she cheated on me for this new guy? She really has been a jerk. When I see her (like I will tomorrow), I don't say anything and don't even make eye contact. She does look at me to see if I am looking at her, but when she realizes I'm not she stops. Would you say that's a good move? Looking at her just pisses me off lol maybe it shouldn't, but I remind myself of all of the things that she did towards the end of our relationship and it angers me. Also no need to apologize for anything, I really appreciate your help. I'll keep that in mind, I have a tendency to lose my cool at times but when dealing with her I'll be as nice as I am with anyone else. She wants a reaction from me because she knows that I can get angry. Her past ex is still sending her crap about how she is a crazy b*tch and all of this and yet she still calls him and they talk about her problems together. LOL Edited December 3, 2012 by na49
Hopeful714 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 They say that the best revenge to your ex is living a good happy life. She does sound like an idiot....and a cheater? BIG no no! NEVER let her get the best of you! Always let her be the ass****. Hold your head high and ACT as life is great without trying to get any reaction from her....just be your happy self! (even tho you feel like **** inside-lol) Unfortunately, I have a feeling this girl is gonna be a problem. You may eventually have to block her unless she finally gets it that she is acting like an A** and gives up. Maybe you should tell her bf nicely to tell her to quit texting you ! Ha!
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