datingtard Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I invited her to my place because she said she wanted to see me. We drank till it was quite late, and she decided to go home.. While she was about to leave, I asked her if she really wanted to leave. Then she hesitated for a while... and suddenly came up to me and kissed me on the lips. I am 24 yr old guy who has never kissed or been kissed and as such I was blown away. I was in a state where I didn't know it was pleasant or not. All that I knew was kissing her back, like automatic. Then she turned off the lights and everything was quite dim. Then we went on and one of my legs was trembling...gosh lol... and she was onto my neck and ears and we were both touchy...My heartbeat was normal and it wasn't fast or anything. While we were at it, she was whispering that she liked me a lot.. And I asked her if she would stay, but she said she couldn't and so she went home. A few hours later she texted me saying that she didn't want to lose me because of what happened and also that she promised not to make advances on me. Probably she felt I wasn't ready, but really i was just too shy to initiate. But i texted her back and reassured everything was fine and that I enjoyed her a lot. And then she replied positively that she was pleased, and she was looking forward for drinks again. Well, I am hoping we could make out more next time, at least it wouldn't feel that tensed i think.. I am also starting to think if she just wants intimacy without me getting into her pants.
carlosquintas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 man with 24 yo you need more of these experiences with other women, there is no need for you too stay worried if this relationship is going to work or not, start seeing other possibilities around you
Author datingtard Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 is this thread censored or what? Thanks for your advice. But I am really a virgin and I don't want to regret later.
lovesick1 Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 man with 24 yo you need more of these experiences with other women, there is no need for you too stay worried if this relationship is going to work or not, start seeing other possibilities around you this here ^
dasein Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Sounds like a hot time, grats. Who knows what the future holds, just enjoy the now with this one and keep her wine glass full.
Author datingtard Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) Sounds like a hot time, grats. Who knows what the future holds, just enjoy the now with this one and keep her wine glass full. Thanks a lot for your replies..but I am really a virgin and she is a single divorced mum... I have thought about this a lot and it's so crazy sometimes and it just doesn't make sense at all. I mean I had urges to visit prostitutes at one time in my life but I did not do it because was afraid of the higher risk of contracting STDs. Now, I am in a casual relationship, and all this is just exciting for me:) The furthest I could go with is just heavy petting... I am not so sure if I would regret if anything went beyond that. Would making out with a single mum be any sort of different from a single lady? I mean the single biggest thing that is holding me back is because she is a single mum. She probably has a lot experience but would I be better off with a single girl instead? So far, she had been giving out a lot of hints about getting casual and she didn't bring up about her kid at all. And I am also guessing she wouldn't probably bring me to her home and visit her kid either. Recently ,she told me she is ok with sex, and hopes that it wouldn't lead to a negative impression about her. Thanks for your replies. Really appreciated that. Edited December 8, 2012 by datingtard
mysteryscape Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 then I would spend more time with her. If you don't feel ready to "do it" then don't, wait until you're ready. I would forget the advice of looking for other possibilities or going to online dating, heaven help us. Sounds like you have a good thing going, why mess it up? Good luck to you. And yes, you will get blue balls if you keep this up, but the condition is rarely fatal!
Author datingtard Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 then I would spend more time with her. If you don't feel ready to "do it" then don't, wait until you're ready. I would forget the advice of looking for other possibilities or going to online dating, heaven help us. Sounds like you have a good thing going, why mess it up? Good luck to you. And yes, you will get blue balls if you keep this up, but the condition is rarely fatal! yeah..i know that...having casual with a single mum??
dasein Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 No, there will be no difference with a single mom, all case by case. Just stay light, fun and flirty, downplay your inexperience. In all likelihood she knows you are inexperienced and this could even be part of your appeal to her. In your shoes would get her out on an active date where you two are walking around. Make it easy for her to touch you and respond. Don't go overboard on compliments, let your treatment of her and your eyes speak for you. Don't get overly emotionally involved, keep contact/texts to a minimum in favor of face to face, just keep moving forward physically and have fun. 1
Author datingtard Posted December 23, 2012 Author Posted December 23, 2012 So I invited her over again to my place last night. Drank 2 bottles of champagne and she felt quite drunk and it was already 2 am. Before she crashed onto my bed, she unsnapped her bra from underneath her tank and threw it onto the sofa next to me.. I was like 'what the hell'.. i meant she could be more polite lol.. She also said why was she the only one undressing..and I said I was fine..and I went to bed a little later. I had a hard time sleeping because she took almost all of the blanket... I managed to 're-adjust everything'.. When it was already morning, we got very close and we did it without the intercourse heheh.. When she was about to leave, she thought that I had felt a little shameful.. but actually I just wanted to take it a little slowly. Thanks for all the advice here. Really had a great time.
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