rmk232 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I made an early post. Essentially my girlfriend of 1.5 years had broken up with me twice. Slowly stopped showing me attention. Have other guys attention and alot of stuff happened that made her look bad but I could never prove if she did it or not. When I shared it was making me insecure she promised she would fix it. She even admitted that she wasn't treating me right and begged for me to give her a chance to prove it. Well after 2 days it was still horrible. I still felt unwanted. So I told her. She blew up on me saying for ever talk to her again and that she's sick of me and that we are over. Then right after text me and said she's just mad give her some time. She's been befriending my old friends that have been trying to cause problems in my life. Yesterday (3 days after she blew up and said give her time) I broke NC and text her saying if she loved me she would be with me and talk to me to work through this. She said okay but he was busy with some people tonight. I said okay. She said we would talk tomorrow (today) and then didn't text me again. Last night she hung out with all those friends who have been causing problems in my life. I know they either want to just get in her pants or attempt to make me miserable. Or both. Honestly after her giving them more attention than me and the stuff that's happened this really hurt. Today at noon I text her saying that she promise to fix things and hadn't. That I'm tired of waiting and tired of her walking on me. And that she had proven to me what I was worth. I told her to have fun with my old friends and that I hope it was the right choice for her. And that I'm making the right decision for me. Now I'm feeling like I should have just talked to her face to face. On the other hand she's promised multiple times she would change and admitted multiple times she isn't treating me right. I can't contact her unless I go to her house because I deleted her number and she doesn't use social networking. Then again I feel like if I was messing up and she said that to me I wouldn't just not respond to it and go on my way. I would try to make sure that person didn't walk from my life. Should I just stay NC go about my life. Move on. Etc. I'm 21 and I've been lost for awhile in life. She gave me the motivation to go back to college. I'm returning in January. But now this and I'm really depressed ones nite and fine the next. I always have a feeling of nausea and I can't really eat without feeling sick.
bitterruin Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Keep NC. Move on. She's the one walking away from the relationship, if she wants to talk she'll do anything to get you back. Sadness will eventually go away.
Author rmk232 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 Keep NC. Move on. She's the one walking away from the relationship, if she wants to talk she'll do anything to get you back. Sadness will eventually go away. I mean I'm kind of the walking away this time. I feel like yes, I am standing up for myself. But at the same time I really wish it would work and I wish she would chase after me like I did her.
imstatic Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I agree, keep NC and Move On. I would also like to suggest that you to get back to college. Every person has a mission in our lives and then they go, leaving that space for someone better to come along. Her mission in your life is over... Something similar happened to me, but I stayed the course while she went out partying, etc, etc. Now, after two years, she's still in the same place while I'm like 3 steps ahead in life. For your ex's sake, I hope she tires and gets her life back on track.
Author rmk232 Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 (edited) I agree, keep NC and Move On. I would also like to suggest that you to get back to college. Every person has a mission in our lives and then they go, leaving that space for someone better to come along. Her mission in your life is over... Something similar happened to me, but I stayed the course while she went out partying, etc, etc. Now, after two years, she's still in the same place while I'm like 3 steps ahead in life. For your ex's sake, I hope she tires and gets her life back on track. Its been day two of the start of no contact ever again. Yesterday I was upset but started feeling way better towards the end of the day. This morning I woke up so upset and pretty much have slept and been in bed all day. I keep reminding me of the stuff shes done and that I can find better but it's just so hard. I've been dealing with arguing back and forth for a week and not talking for a day or two inbetween that but now I just straight up cut all contact. She didnt even text me back when I said I couldnt do this anymore. Like I'm just honestly so lost. With college I want to go back. But honestly I'm scared and she was my moral support. She helped convince me I could. Now I feel so helpless and I dont know if I really can. Edited December 3, 2012 by rmk232
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