Alex DeLarge Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Hey folks, so my girlfriend complains.. A LOT. Sounds average? Yeah, well it's getting to an unbearable point now. I did what I could in the beginning to satisfy her, but it's becoming clear that she's just insatiable. It all started with her coming over my house. At first there was absolutely NO PROBLEM at all. She'd come over 3 or 4 times a week and stay over.. Then all sorts of problems began to come up. She started getting a rash on her face all the time, so I solved it by buying some skin sensitive detergent. No more rashes.. Then she said she felt awkward about my mother being there.. Well that's just something you'll have to deal with and overcome if you want to date me. I met your parents and have conversations with them anytime I'm over. "Your rooms too dry" she says.. So I go out and buy a humidifier to make it a more pleasant experience. "I like to use my own shampoo".. Well bring it over. The list just goes on and on.. She CONSTANTLY complains without even attempting to find a way to resolve the issues. I know that some women like to just complain while their man listens, but I tried that. I tried making my home more hospitable for here, but I'm starting to realize that there's no end in sight with the chronic complaining. Then the other day, I was trying to initiate sex while hanging out at her house and she jokingly said "Only on mondays".. That's our usual day off together and we do have sex that day, I thought she was just joking and kept pursuing it. Then she KICKS me. What?! She says "I told you I don't want to. Only on mondays." Ummm.. I know sex is not everything, but I have a very high libido and want to be having sex with my girlfriend more than one day a week. I think she avoids my house just so that I don't try to have sex with her sometimes. Whenever I try to talk to her about how I feel with her complaining, she'll tell me I'm "too sensitive".. At this point, I feel like I need to stop acting like her. I'm complaining and I keep repeating what I want to be the solution (meet her request).. But she just seems like a spoiled brat. I'm thinking the only solution is dumping her. What do ya'll think?
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Yeah you got a whiny beatch on her hands that always wants to be in control and thinks the world revolves around her likes or dislikes. She's putting the lock on you and testing the limits like a teenager, If you're the passive kind of guy or trying to appease her all the time then she's going to chew you up and spit you out, you've got to be able to be in control more with this kind of a woman...you can't let her walk over you and she'll keep pushing it and pushing it. I realize you were just trying to compromise and meet her half way but she doesn't sound like a reasonable person, she seems like someone who cares about herself and how she feels and will expect you to accommodate that...If I were I'd give her the boot right out the front door, or I'd check her on those things and not play along. You have to know your limits and what you'll take...man or woman. You seem like you're sexually into this girl, so I think it's a bit of a sacrifice for you that you're overlooking these other things, but she's not going to change or get any better..if you're rolling over now she'll have you doing backflips soon enough for her and It'll come down to you having a backbone...If she doesn't want to compromise or listen, then just drop her...chances are she'd react and panic, otherwise she'd just let you go and didn't care all that much in the first place...she was probably over it and was just with you to have a BF.
Under The Radar Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) Yeah you got a whiny beatch on her hands that always wants to be in control and thinks the world revolves around her likes or dislikes. She's putting the lock on you and testing the limits like a teenager, If you're the passive kind of guy or trying to appease her all the time then she's going to chew you up and spit you out, you've got to be able to be in control more with this kind of a woman...you can't let her walk over you and she'll keep pushing it and pushing it. I realize you were just trying to compromise and meet her half way but she doesn't sound like a reasonable person, she seems like someone who cares about herself and how she feels and will expect you to accommodate that...If I were I'd give her the boot right out the front door, or I'd check her on those things and not play along. You have to know your limits and what you'll take...man or woman. You seem like you're sexually into this girl, so I think it's a bit of a sacrifice for you that you're overlooking these other things, but she's not going to change or get any better..if you're rolling over now she'll have you doing backflips soon enough for her and It'll come down to you having a backbone...If she doesn't want to compromise or listen, then just drop her...chances are she'd react and panic, otherwise she'd just let you go and didn't care all that much in the first place...she was probably over it and was just with you to have a BF. ^^^^^THIS^^^^^ She will NOT change. If you pass "The Spine Test", and call her out on her bitchiness/complaining/ME ME ME behavior, she MIGHT get better TEMPORARILY. Then, once some time goes by, she'll revert back to her "old" self. People, generally speaking, do not change. Do you really want to have to "crack whip" on a weekly basis to have a healthy relationship? From the tone of your post I can already tell you are completely exhausted from dealing with this. How do you think you'll feel in another year enduring this behavior? Don't touch me - I only have sex on Mondays? Uhhhh, yeah ... It's inexplicable how insane that sounds to me :lmao:. Bottom line: She's selfish and controlling. Edited December 2, 2012 by Training Revelations
Author Alex DeLarge Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 OP why do you think a healthy young woman you have had sex with now actively avoids it? Women don't just decide to stop having GOOD sex... Ok buddy.. Thanks to all other replies! I appreciate it. I really feel as though I need to end things lately. We both go way back (friends for around 8 years) but I'm beginning to realize that it probably should have stayed that way lol. It's getting hard for me to tell her that I love her. She erupted with another explosion today when she called me after work to let me know that she's staying in. I don't really mind that she cancelled plans for dinner so last minute because I have other things that I can do, but it just seems a little bit rude to me. If I cancelled so last minute with her, she would erupt and call me careless, selfish and forgetful. Like anyone else, I tend to get down in the dumps when I'm constantly in the cloud of negative energy .. So maybe it's time to end things. Thanks ya'll
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