edwards99 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Hello all.. Well my beautiful woman and I have desided to try again..we both agree that breaking up for 6 months was a bad idea.. over the course of our break up which I truly belive was very hard on both of us...we were surrounded by family n friends encouraging us to see other people.. I didnt end up actually dating anyone..but she came clean with no trying to hide anything that she seen two diff guys breifly..neither was serious lasted less than two wks and she told me she was more just pressured by those around her..she said she never felt it was her doing it trying to forget me..but just as a distraction from the crying..resentment..frustration.etc etc.she ws open about it...she also mentioned she felt like she was cheating.. I too was pressured by friends an so on.. but i didnt date or see anyone..mstly cuz I was hoping we would have another chance and wasnt interested at all by anyone. what i need commented on here...please.......was it kinda hurts that she seen anyone at all..i guess i thought snce i couldnt she would feel the same..i imagine her laughing and touching another man...and it just breaks me open...althought it obviousy went no where...and she is with me..and things are wonderful...its just bothers me...n more than i think it should.. we both i think we let go of alot of resentment for past issues..and going ons..over the past 4 years..and now things are amazing... We both speak about how different things are. andhowhappy we are n felt we havent been for so long..its like we needed to be destroyed to be able to build us back up stronger.. everyone please comment..i really dont want this to affect me in any way..
Droplet Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 It's a choice you have to make. No amount of discussion can actually turn that switch off inside your head. Actually, I would say avoid the subject because any sign of weakness on your part in the very early stages of reconciliation could have a disastrous effect on the future of your relationship ( because just as you, she isn't quite sure that going back together was the right thing to do just yet ). I know, it sucks, and what you feel is only human but try to move on and make your relationship work in the present. Do not let the past ruin it because it's pointless : you cannot change it, and it has no reason to affect you. Besides, jealousy ( when it's not cheating ) is a sign of insecurity and you do not want to show her that AT ALL. Take care. 1
Gottabestrong Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Were you in contact during the 6 months breakup? Who ended things and why? Did you agree on it being a 'break' or did you break up for good? All these things influence how you should deal with the fact that she was seeing someone. But did she even sleep or make out with somebody? It doesn't sound like it. Are you upset because she went out on a date with someone?
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I feel for ya OP thats a really tough one to deal with. But I have to give it to you strait. You guys were broken up with intentions of moving on. You can't change the past. Most likley there is nothing she can say to make you feel better about it. Your going to have to reach down inside yourself and find a way to be ok with it. Your very happy right now so don't let the past ruin your present!! I wish you guys the best.. GOOD LUCK!!
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 HAHA! I didn't read the comments and basically said the same thing as droplet. Yea what she said!!!
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