Ramzk001 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I always have regrets about what happened in the past!
Sav Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 You don't overcome it. You take it with you and be a better person
Exit Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Regrets are there to extract information from. The regret is the tool in your pocket to guide you through the same situation the next time it happens and not make the same mistake. Try not to see it just as a source of pain. There is a lesson behind it. Sometimes even after we feel that we learned what we needed to learn from it, it still stings and we still wish it hadn't happened that way. But you just have to move on. Plan for better in the future. A big part of accepting my failed relationships is by telling myself that hopefully they happened so when I meet the person I'm really supposed to be with in the future, I'll know what not to do. 3
coans Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I think now it is called "ruminating"... It is something I do constantly...but it is not health at all. see if you can call it something besides regret...call it ruminating about the past..and then try and stop the ruminating. great word I think..to describe what we do.
YorickBrown Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 I always have regrets about what happened in the past! Well, I certainly hope so...its better than having regrets in the future! Sorry..what I meant to say is...well, only time can make you "overcome" regrets, or should I say over time, you will eventually "forget" them (which is not always a good thing) So, instead of trying to overcome or eventually "forgetting" your regrets, I suggest you "use" (recall, analyze, dissect) these feelings now, to avoid having them again in the future. "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it" Simply put, "if you're not regretting...you're not learning...you'll be doomed to repeating" 1
lakerman34 Posted December 3, 2012 Posted December 3, 2012 No such thing as regrets, really. I don't regret anything I've done. Sure, I frown upon a lot of things and think about a lot of things I could have done differently. But isn't that what learning is? Had I not done those things, I may have done them in my next relationship. Now SINCE I've done those things, I know NOT to do them in my next relationship. Take them as a lesson, remember that lesson, make yourself a better person, move the f on, make sure the next girl/guy is an upgrade. Realize that life is beautiful. To be able to feel pain is better than feeling nothing (I believe David Hume is famous for coining this saying, but correct me if I'm wrong?), and to feel love is the best feeling of all.
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