I broke it off 2 1/2 weeks ago, neither has contacted eachother, is it too soon

[jr15628]

On July 22, i wrote my female friend of 10 months and dating for three months that i felt that what has started in a great relationship has suddenly slowed down dramastically. So i went ahead and told her in this letter that maybe we should stop our kissing and hugging relationship.

 

In the beggining we had almost contact of each other un-number of times and hour long conversations. Then towards the end of the relationship, the distancing began. Although she always asked me if i would ever consider being her boyfriend, i would always respond to her that i would like to take the relationship as far as she would like it to go. Her only set back she felt was an issue was her 3 yr. old baby. This was never an issue for me since i have dated several women with a baby.

 

But then i notice that she was willing to spend more time with her (male) cousins and a uncle who supposivly was trying to get her a better job. It just seemed wierd that this uncle would always want to take her to a bar to meet. I did become uncomfortable with that but never said anything to her.

 

Then there was a time she invited me to see her right before she was going to leave with her uncle. And at that same time she gave me a long kiss while her uncle waited in the car. So that somewhat answered some of my suspicions. But then I just felt still out of the picture and i went on ahead and wrote this friend a letter telling her that i liked her alot and i did not have any hard feelings towards her, but there just wasn't that spark that i could feel from her anymore. So i then wrote, "maybe we should stop what we have going on for now, and maybe try again in the future or leave everything in the pass".

 

I have been good about the "no contact" since this letter was mailed to her (exactly 2 weeks and 4 days). Since then i have not received any kind of response from her. I did fell to mention that in this letter i wrote, "do not feel as if you owe me anything nor do you have to respond to this letter". I must say that i miss her and would like to start a verbal contact with her. But i don't know what to think at this point, because she as well has been good with not contacting me neither. I did write in this letter that i did not have any hard feelings towards her. But now i don't know if i should break this ice, and attempt to call her.

 

A little history between us is we never even once had an argument. It was almost like a perfect relationship. And believe me, I am in my late 20's and have dated. This was by far a great one. She on the other hand is 22 yrs. old. What also makes me feel different about the others she may have dated is because she alsways told me before we fooled around that she does not bring just any partner of hers into her daughters life nor does she introduce them to her parents. I on the other hand was brought to meet them when she wanted to and never was there any pressure from my part.

 

So what do i do from this point?????

[acidrein_08]

Give up and move on, or give it all you got and get it back. It's up to you.