witmadskilllz Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 So it's been a good 2 years since me and my ex had been broken up, and up until now she's been with her rebound boyfriend for 1 year + and still going I believe. So after all this had happened, I've been NC and still going but some days there will be misery, agony, whatever you call it. Today when I was going through my computer and re-organizing files, I had stumbled across some old conversations between me and my ex and I forgot that these conversations were auto-saved by msn at the time. So I decided to check them out and while reading I had this huge immense feeling which I can not describe in words but at the same time, I had immediately started shedding these tears. So at that point, I still hadn't decide whether to leave the old conversations alive in my pc or not but it's not just old conversations but as well as pictures with me and her too that are stored on my pc. I guess someday when I actually do need to reformat my computer, it will be the end of it. Has anyone reformatted their computer after their breakup, deleting anything that has to do with her and such? I only packed away the physical objects, gifts and etc. Are these memories worth to keep?
denxnis Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Dude have you not had another girlfriend since then? Ugh... this makes me feel sad and hopeless. I kept all of our images and even some gifts, I try not to look at the pictures though. Also I work on my career a lot more now and just figure she is the one losing out since I will be successful and happy in the years to come.
LostOne1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Well my ex's stuff is on my PC still.. but I haven't looked at it or anything. I have MSN convo's too. And yeah.. I know how tough that can be to read. You see the good moments and know they are long gone now. 2 yrs.. I thought you would be healed by now.. that's a long time. As for my last ex, I basically backup old data on CD drives and put it away. So past ex's pics and convo's are probably stored on a disc somewhere which I probably will not access unless I need some old file and come accross that stuff and I HAVE a few times. It was a bit painful, but I was with my current ex and I was content thinking who I have now is the one I want to be with. Are the memories worth to keep... I think so. Because you look at them and realize how good things were and then you realize the msitakes made and you make sure you don't make them again. Some people I hear like to wipe everything away. My ex was so bad, she told me she wiped everything she had of me. I don't know if she meant all gifts I gave her or MSN and pics as well. But either way... I'll probably still keep stuff and put away somewhere. I'm done with the hate for the most part. I'm at the point where I am hurt and a little mad. But I don't hate her enough to throw it all away. I'm not angry like her and throwing fits and just not thinking straight. But ultimaelty its up to you. I think if the memories are painful maybe get rid of it. If they are something you laugh off or just feel like it was good while it was there and your okay with where you are now. Then it's okay to keep the stuff.
LostOne1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Dude have you not had another girlfriend since then? Ugh... this makes me feel sad and hopeless. I kept all of our images and even some gifts, I try not to look at the pictures though. Also I work on my career a lot more now and just figure she is the one losing out since I will be successful and happy in the years to come. depends on the relationship.. I think it took me about 2 yrs almost to get a new gf too. And to be honest.. this is the 1st time I don't know if I want another right now. I don't think I can handle one for at least another 2 years. But yeah it depends on the healing process. Some people heal slower than others.
Author witmadskilllz Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) Dude have you not had another girlfriend since then? Ugh... this makes me feel sad and hopeless. I kept all of our images and even some gifts, I try not to look at the pictures though. Also I work on my career a lot more now and just figure she is the one losing out since I will be successful and happy in the years to come. Yeah denxnis, unfortunately I am the type that will cherish every girlfriend and that If I were to be with another girl right now, I'd make sure to have healed properly and to rid of anything that would remind me of my last ex so I can completely engage and induldge everything to my current without hindering the relationship. Yes it is a pity though to hear this part of me as I do wish that I was a little bit out going or so but I can't help it lol. She was my first after all.. haha Well my ex's stuff is on my PC still.. but I haven't looked at it or anything. I have MSN convo's too. And yeah.. I know how tough that can be to read. You see the good moments and know they are long gone now. 2 yrs.. I thought you would be healed by now.. that's a long time. As for my last ex, I basically backup old data on CD drives and put it away. So past ex's pics and convo's are probably stored on a disc somewhere which I probably will not access unless I need some old file and come accross that stuff and I HAVE a few times. It was a bit painful, but I was with my current ex and I was content thinking who I have now is the one I want to be with. Are the memories worth to keep... I think so. Because you look at them and realize how good things were and then you realize the msitakes made and you make sure you don't make them again. Some people I hear like to wipe everything away. My ex was so bad, she told me she wiped everything she had of me. I don't know if she meant all gifts I gave her or MSN and pics as well. But either way... I'll probably still keep stuff and put away somewhere. I'm done with the hate for the most part. I'm at the point where I am hurt and a little mad. But I don't hate her enough to throw it all away. I'm not angry like her and throwing fits and just not thinking straight. But ultimaelty its up to you. I think if the memories are painful maybe get rid of it. If they are something you laugh off or just feel like it was good while it was there and your okay with where you are now. Then it's okay to keep the stuff. Yeah, I guess it varies from person to person but to think that it could sting you still after such a long time has passed. The conversation part that had made me laugh about, had made it much more harder for me to accept the way how things ended because it made me miss her that much more, heh. Edited December 2, 2012 by witmadskilllz
LostOne1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Yeah denxnis, unfortunately I am the type that will cherish every girlfriend and that If I were to be with another girl right now, I'd make sure to have healed properly and to rid of anything that would remind me of my last ex so I can completely engage and induldge everything to my current without hindering the relationship. Yes it is a pity though to hear this part of me as I do wish that I was a little bit out going or so but I can't help it lol. She was my first after all.. haha Yeah, I guess it varies from person to person but to think that it could sting you still after such a long time has passed. The conversation part that had made me laugh about, had made it much more harder for me to accept the way how things ended because it made me miss her that much more, heh. I think it stings more if your still single. I saw an old friends pic, who always liked me a lot. But I never liked her back that way. But she always spent her time with me. I saw her pic a few yrs back after I had a BU and was single again. Yes then it was painful to remember my good high school days. And to know I had someone crazy about me, but I couldn't feel that back for her. In fact just recently I talked to her after my BU.. she has a kid now just a few months old. Scary to see how fast the world and time goes by. But if your not single, I don't think it hurts as much. Because you feel content that you HAVE someone, and your happy having that person. Where as if your single and alone, it hurts because you DONT have anyone and you see what you had and can't have back. I bet a few years from now when your with someone you love. And you see those memories again... they won't hurt too much at all. You'll know you had good times, but the person you have then is so much better and makes you feel content.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 wow, 2 years. That's nuts. Though I must say, I'm pretty happy I lost my old cell phone that had conversations between the ex and I. There were some pictures I lost that I'd rather have, but overall it's probably better that I lost those as well.
Author witmadskilllz Posted December 3, 2012 Author Posted December 3, 2012 I think it stings more if your still single. I saw an old friends pic, who always liked me a lot. But I never liked her back that way. But she always spent her time with me. I saw her pic a few yrs back after I had a BU and was single again. Yes then it was painful to remember my good high school days. And to know I had someone crazy about me, but I couldn't feel that back for her. In fact just recently I talked to her after my BU.. she has a kid now just a few months old. Scary to see how fast the world and time goes by. But if your not single, I don't think it hurts as much. Because you feel content that you HAVE someone, and your happy having that person. Where as if your single and alone, it hurts because you DONT have anyone and you see what you had and can't have back. I bet a few years from now when your with someone you love. And you see those memories again... they won't hurt too much at all. You'll know you had good times, but the person you have then is so much better and makes you feel content. Yeah, for now, I gotta suck it up, work on myself more and the rest will work itself out. wow, 2 years. That's nuts. Though I must say, I'm pretty happy I lost my old cell phone that had conversations between the ex and I. There were some pictures I lost that I'd rather have, but overall it's probably better that I lost those as well. Yeah.. they say sometimes it's better off not knowing.
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