mortensorchid Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 About 2 years ago, I had two rather mean stabs in the back by two mean, deceitful, rather cowardly men. The first I had known at a few parties here and there, we would usually see each other on Halloween or there abouts. We went out once, then I was leaving for NYC and then Chicago, I told him I would be gone for that amount of time. When I returned, he went out and got himself a gf without letting me know of it. I returned to a bbq at the same friend's house who was hosting the parties where I met him, and he introduces me to this new gf by giving her a big, open mouthed kiss and said "Isn't she cute?!". I was insensed to say the least, but handled it with class. I wrote him through Facebook and told him I hoped they would be happy, not one get together does a relationship make. It just so happens that at same said party, I met another attendee who asked to see me the next weekend. I said yes. I met him the following weekend, had an ok time, and then he asked me to text him. Following his orders, I texted him the next week and got a response of "Who is this?", I said I was looking for (name). Whoever this person was on the other end of the phone said they were his cousin's gf and he was using his phone. I responded via text "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't know". This person, whoever they were, felt the need to tell me that he had gone back to the mother of his kids. I said "I see, thank you for the information". And they both unfriended me from Facebook. To say that was deceitful on both of their parts (the second person's being all the worse) was an understatement, not to mention hurtful and I felt like a fool for being so easily duped. Last year and most of this year I was seeing someone else, for the most part I was very happy with him. It just so happens that my last serious bf and the first guy know each other and can't stand one another. I told him what had happened, and my bf (an Alpha male if there ever was one) asked him to give the first a message if ever I were to see the first guy again. Tonight I saw him. I made small talk with him, then I said I was leaving the party. I said "Oh by the way, you know (name) don't you?" He rolled his eyes and said "Oh yeah, I know him." "He had a message that he wanted me to give you!" He said "For me?" I grabbed my crotch with both hands and made a V and said "You see this? He had this. And you didn't! See ya!" And flounced away. He was horrified. Immature, I admit, but it felt good.
SJC2008 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Why are you a deuche bag magnet?? Are these the men you want in your life? How old are you if I may?
dasein Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Sorry, but I don't really get how these two guys' actions were deceitful? The first one you weren't dating exclusively, and then later he got a GF and kissed her in front of you at a party? The other one whom you weren't dating either ended up having some phone mixup and then going back to an ex? I just don't see any deceit in there. What did I miss in the OP? But if it made you feel good to send the message you sent with the crotch grabbing, I guess that's a good thing. 2
CC12 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Why did your Alpha Male Boyfriend have to send a message through you and why would he even care about some guy you went on one date with two years ago? Why do you care? Congrats on making obscene gestures at some random dude from your past, I guess. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I kinda feel for the OP. Maybe what she did was a little over the top but I think everyone does a version of this. Showing off their social status and how desirable they are by flaunting what they have. Whatever that is. Just about everyone has done a version of that.
meandmyself Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Wow, very mature move! So he didn't have you.. did he even wanted too? For what I know he has a girlfriend...
iris219 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 You seem to get emotionally invested in men who give you no reason to quickly. I can't imagine giving a crap about what a guy I went out with once did. You were annoyed that he kissed his GF in front of you whereas I wouldn't care if I walked in on them having sex (well, I would, because it would be awkward ). I don't see what the guy owed you. You were friends and went out once. What's the big deal? Maybe I'm misunderstanding the events that occurred. You should try to figure out why you get so invested so quickly. That is unusual behavior and it makes your life difficult. I wonder if you're bored and like to create drama where they really isn't any. Learn to invest in people only after a certain amount of time and after their actions clearly indicate that you should. If I was the guy at the party, I would find your actions confusing and odd. 2
phineas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Why are you a deuche bag magnet?? Are these the men you want in your life? How old are you if I may? This. Morton, how many orbiter's do you have in your life?
Recommended Posts