confusedas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I just broke up with my boyfriend, someone I have only been with for two months. I love him. I don't know whether I am in love with him though. He is in the army, and left three weeks into our relationship for basic training. We started off quickly, I suppose trying to get time into our relationship before we went into a long distance one. We started being exclusive the night we met, and I slept with him a week later. We talked to each other 24/7. I thought we were perfect. However, I soon found it really difficult to trust him, especially after hearing (from both him and friends) his 'player' status. I am a very 'need to know' person, so whether he was cheating on me or not, I both didn't know and didn't care - as long as it didn't affect our relationship. He lied to me a few times, and when I confronted him after the last time he told me that all his other girlfriends had smothered him, and he was used to lying. I am the complete opposite of all his other partners (there are a lot of them). I'm smart, social without sleeping with everyone, I drink, but can hold my liquor well. I let my bf do what he wants, as long as he leaves some time for me. He is one of my best friends, and I feel like I've known him for years. I just don't know whether it was more then friends. He is the only guy who ever made me feel like I was worth something amazing. But the things he said to me I think he said to many of his past girlfriends. He told me I was beautiful, and made promises about our life together. Kids and marriage and living together - all things he brought up. He told me he loved me. Honestly, I was more afraid of commitment then he was, which was strange. And this morning I broke up with him. I don't think we will get to see each other much, and I don't want to worry about him cheating on me. But I also want him, a lot. So, should I offer him an open relationship? Or should I stick with the break up. When I broke up with him he said: "I know it's hard, lets be friends." I should probably point out here that he HATES all of his exes. I have been getting messages from lots of guys, who are wanting to cheer me up. That's really weird, because no guys have been interested in me before. Or have they? I'm so confused! HELP!
CptSaveAho Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Sounds like a good breakup to me.... his player status was apparent with his future faking...kids marriage etc so quickly
movingon12 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I just broke up with my boyfriend, someone I have only been with for two months. I love him. I don't know whether I am in love with him though. If you're not sure if you are: you're not. When you truly love someone, you know, without question. I don't think it's necessarily a good sign to 'not care' whether he was cheating or not. It sounds like you two weren't really a good match and I think you made the right decision to end it.
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