Lived together for a year, now both moving back in with parents… How do we stay sane?

[Driver]

My boyfriend and I are both 23… We have been living together for the past year, and we are both finishing up college in a few weeks. Our lease ended today and we have decided we are going to both move back home with our parents...because I am going to grad school in another city in eight months, and we want to save up enough money to be financially stable enough to start that phase together. My mom's house is about a half hour drive from his parents' so it's a bit of a drive but doable.

 

The whole situation is sad because we have created a little life together and things are really going to change. How can we get through this? It's going to be weird because I want him to stay over some nights...especially since the drive is a half hour. But my old-fashioned mother may not approve. Even though I am staying in her guesthouse, which is separate from her house. Anyone have any tips or suggestions about how our relationship can get through something like this? And any tips when it comes to making my mom be more "cool" about letting him stay over? It sounds so inappropriate but I just don't know what to do here.

[dasein]

Eh, 30 minutes is nothing, so that part will probably be manageable. With your mother, has she set out any restrictions already? She knows you have been living together right? She may surprise you if you approach it as keeping you from having to drive to him all the time. Common sense to avoid late night guests or loudness from the guest house if you want her to warm to the idea of having the BF stay over. Maybe "It would be just him, and not parties or bunches of people" as a negotiating chip?