AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 So I was at a bar last night with a female friend of mine.I was pretty buzzed from a couple of drinks & enjoying a cigarette outside.Three guys came out to smoke & I start chatting with them.We had some fun easy going convo going, for about 45 minutes.One of the guys suggested that my friend & I go see their band play tonight (Sat) at another bar.This guy said "give me your number so I can tell you the specifics" I said my phone number out loud to him but, I really liked the other guy he was with. When the guy who asked for my number left I made my move.... I told the guy I liked, that I actually wanted to give my number to him.He said "ok-what's your number?" I gave it to him & he said "I'm gonna call you right now" He did, and while standing right next to him, I answered & said "Hey! You're really cute...on that note-I gotta go" We laughed,hugged & I gave him a kiss on the cheek before leaving the bar. He texted me this morning & asked how I was doing.Said it was nice to meet me & commented about how it was a shame cause I broke something.(my glass pipe used for smoking weed) I texted him back when I woke up an hour later, just saying that I was good,thanks.Have a little hangover cause I'm not cut out for drinking but, told him I was glad I was drunk enough to put the moves on him last night. It took him 5 hours to reply... He lol'd & said he was in band rehearsal & also felt not that great from drinking last night I texted him back within a few minutes just saying I was sorry he didn't feel good & told him if he wants to smoke weed or something let me know... Now it's been over 5 hours since I sent that text & I haven't heard from him yet.Granted...I know his band is playing a show at a bar tonight but, I kinda thought I was gonna go see them play since his friend invited me.I won't be contacting him again, until I hear from him but... Does it seem like he's just busy?Or not that interested? I mean...I know I just met him last night but, I was thinking, if he is really interested,it only takes a minute to reply to a text.Am I being irrational here?
Author AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 Does he smoke weed? Oh yeah. (10 characters)
SJC2008 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 My guess is that if he's good looking enough to get hit on and is also in a band then take a number and get in line. 3
Author AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 My guess is that if he's good looking enough to get hit on and is also in a band then take a number and get in line. Haha! He is very good looking and also an attorney so, I'm guessing he has options but, he is a shy nerdy dork too (the band he plays in is a bagpipe band)Lol!
Author AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) Does he look like Rener Gracie? Come on Under.The.Radar! This is a serious matter! Rener Gracie is only about a 6 or 7 on the hotness scale. Edited December 2, 2012 by AsItIs
suladas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 My guess is that if he's good looking enough to get hit on and is also in a band then take a number and get in line. It's more common then you think. Last night I had 3 women approach me at the bar alone. And i'm like average looks wise, and they were pretty good looking girls, one was easily a 7 or 8. I only got one number and left with her, but still can't complain with how easy it was. Being confident, not a creeper, and approachable is huge. 2
suladas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I think the problem getting numbers when drinking is people can change their mind, or even forget. I got a number from a girl last night, never asked or wanted it. I went back to her hotel room but it was simply going to be a one night thing, I was out of town so not interested in numbers and I didn't even know her name anyways. A bit awkward... But then again, if I was interested i'd text, if I wasn't i wouldn't communicate at all. 1
Author AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 I think the problem getting numbers when drinking is people can change their mind, or even forget. I got a number from a girl last night, never asked or wanted it. I went back to her hotel room but it was simply going to be a one night thing, I was out of town so not interested in numbers and I didn't even know her name anyways. A bit awkward... But then again, if I was interested i'd text, if I wasn't i wouldn't communicate at all. Damn Saludas! You must be pretty hot too! The girls are just giving it to you in hotel rooms? Lol! So are you saying... that since he texted me this morning,he's probably interested... but just busy tonight? (And possibly a little hugover still, like me)
mortensorchid Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Well you are making yourself a little too available to him, see if he responds at some point and then you'll know. IN the meantime hope you didn't text him any further unless you hear from him again. 2
Under The Radar Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) It's too early to tell. Yes, it does only take 2 minutes to text you back. However, consider that: He might be busy.He is hungover (which he readily admitted to you).He doesn't want to appear needy/clingy/too eager.He is weighing his options because he's not sure about you yet.He is blowing you off and is not interested.You will have an answer soon enough. Be patient and try not to be too aggressive AsItIs - you don't want to scare him away. Now, I sincerely hope this post was serious enough for you ? Edited December 2, 2012 by Training Revelations 1
suladas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) Damn Saludas! You must be pretty hot too! The girls are just giving it to you in hotel rooms? Lol! So are you saying... that since he texted me this morning,he's probably interested... but just busy tonight? (And possibly a little hugover still, like me) I wish. First time ever i've left a bar with a girl or got a number actually, never had the confidence to approach. I'm doing really good lately actually, only one of my friends who left with a girl, one friend must of got shut down 20+ times. I got a kick out of one girl coming up to me after she turned him down though It was in a small ski resort town, so hooking up from the bars is much more common compared to the city. I'm really not, i've got pics in my profile actually, i'd just say i'm average. I guess maybe one thing is I stand out from all the other guys, being really tall, broad shoulders, i'm pretty much always the biggest guy in the bar. I don't know what changed, I NEVER use to get attention like this, I lost some weight and got more confident that's all I can think of. Yes I would say he is interested. I can't see where he would bother to text at all if he wasn't. Although the problem with meeting someone at a bar is most people assume it's just going to be a fling nothing serious. Edited December 2, 2012 by suladas 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) Agree with others. I would take a chill pill. He had practice and whatever else he planned for the day. Do you have other things to occupy your time while you wait for his texts? Only other thing I'll add, is it's a little awkward that his friend hit on you. I'm assuming his friend didn't witness you hitting on him? They are friends, and it's unlikely he'll jeopardize that for an unknown quantity that may not go anywhere. What I would have said to him when you were chatting it up is: Look it's going to be awkward if I show up to see your band, so I won't. But I'd love to see you some other time. He'll either text or he won't. Totally up to him at this point to get things moving. I wouldn't do anything more to initiate right now. Edited December 2, 2012 by Cutiepie1976 2
suladas Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Agree with others. I would take a chill pill. He had practice and whatever else he planned for the day. Do you have other things to occupy your time while you wait for his texts? Only other thing I'll add, is it's a little awkward that his friends hit on you. I'm assuming his friend didn't witness you hitting on him? They are friends, and it's unlikely he'll jeopardize that for an unknown quantity that may not go anywhere. What I would have said to him when you were chatting it up is: Look it's going to be awkward if I show up to see your band, so I won't. But I'd love to see you some other time. He'll either text or he won't. Totally up to him at this point to get things moving. I wouldn't do anything more to initiate right now. The guy rule, at least in my social circle if two guys like a girl or whatever if one can get her, then by all means. In the case like OP, no guy who hit on her and failed would have had hard feelings about someone else getting her. I mean you have only known the person for a few minutes, not like you really know them anyways. 1
Author AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 Hmmm, Not sure if I should be offended or happy but he just texted me. It's almost 1:30 am & has been over 8 hours since I texted him. He just said"hey,whatcha doing?" I'm not gonna lie-I feel like reponding & hanging but, I know that would send the wrong message so I'm not gonna respond tonight.I may respond in the morning though.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Booty call. Don't go there unless you don't mind a ONS or casual fling. 2
Trimmer Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Now it's been over 5 hours since I sent that text & I haven't heard from him yet.Granted...I know his band is playing a show at a bar tonight but, I kinda thought I was gonna go see them play since his friend invited me.I won't be contacting him again, until I hear from him but... Remember, if he's baked, then 5 hours may seem like just a few minutes. Or is that a few minutes seems like 5 hours? Wait, were you stoned while you were waiting for his text? Maybe it had really only been a few minutes... 1
Author AsItIs Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 Thanks for everyone's advice so far.I really appreciate it! My question now is... Since I did not reply to the 1:30am "whatcha doing" text... Should I text him back tomorrow, saying something along the lines of - I was asleep,how was the show (yadda yadda yadda) Or should I just wait to see if he ever texts me again at a respectable time? I am just confused because the whole dynamic changed the moment I hit on him, instead of him making the first move.I am not looking for a fwb or to be pumped & dumped.I promise to listen to the advice given, because in the past,I have made mistakes & I don't want to get used for sex ever again. Reply? Or Stay silent? Thanks!
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 The problem with approaching first is that men see you as an easy lay. It's irrelevant what you do. That 1:30am text told you what he is after... 7
MyPoutine Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 (edited) You meet a guy at a club and by the next day you are already timing his texts?? A guy you don't know from a bag of chips...to me that's too eager, even if you made the first move he should be the one to suggest hanging out first and such. Don't text him and just walk away, and next time please don't put so much value into a total stranger. Good luck Edited December 2, 2012 by MyPoutine 2
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Agree. The ball is in your court now. I would respond and just see where he takes things as you communicate--asking to take you out on a real date vs. hanging out (which would suggest lack of effort, hoping to get lucky, and something more casual). 1
RachR Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 You meet a guy at a club and by the next day you are already timing his texts?? A guy you don't know from a bag of chips...to me that's too eager, even if you made the first move he should be the one to suggest hanging out first and such. Don't text him and just walk away, and next time please don't put so much value into a total stranger. Good luck This^ This waaaaaay too much analysis and hand-wringing over a guy you barely talked to the night before. -_- (And who you now know is obviously just after a booty call) 1
Divasu Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Maybe he fell asleep after smoking a joint... Seriously, if you want someone of better quality, change your lifestyle. 4
Mr Scorpio Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Maybe he fell asleep after smoking a joint... Seriously, if you want someone of better quality, change your lifestyle. Generalize much? 1
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