me get her back!!!

[sailorboy6556]

im going to try to make this as short and to the point as possible because it is a lot. i really need your help guys. ok so i have known this girl since i was 8 and we have grown up together in the summers down the shore. we only live about a block away down the shore. we also have always had a crush on each other. we had our first kiss during the summer of 09 and we had a long distance relationship when we both went back to school after that summer. we lived about 45 min away from each other. it was her sophomore year and my freshman year. we had a good relationship with some rocky times every now and then like usual relationships do and then summer of 2011 and she broke up with me and then after spending the whole summer chasing after her and her hooking up while she was hookin up with this college dude she finally realized what she was throwing away and we got back together in september. the whole year was great and this past summer was amazing and then she went to college. i was so sad about this but we stayed together. for the first couple months it was great and she had told me that she had never loved me this much before and how much she missed me and how she loved having a bf. we saw each other in september (she came home to go to a baseball game with me) and then i went to go see her in october. everything was great and the next day when i left, she gave me a kiss and said i love you. then on the way home i get this text and she said baby i need to talk to you and i was expecting to hear like i miss you or something like that but then i get this long message basically breaking up with me. and obviously i was a wreck and so confused. btw in the text she said that we were obviously meant to be together. long story short the next day, we agreed that after talking on the phone that we would see how things were and that she would keep an open mind when we saw each other over thanksgiving break. so a week goes by and then i ask her about if she hooked up with any guy and she said that yes and like it was this guy that had always been texting with her and flirting with her when we were together and after they hooked up he hardly talked to her so she stopped talking to him/hooking up with him. then the next weekend, my dad had a heartattack and she sent flowers and was there for me through it all. and then the next weekend after that she promised me that she wouldnt get with anyone else until we figured us out and she appologized for being such a bitch. this was good news and i even saw some proof in the following days (sexy pics being sent, snapchats, etc.) then i asked her to homecoming by sending her flowers and she loved them but was confused on why i had done this for her bc i didnt have to. and then the next weekend after that she told me that she had hooked up with this guy that she said she never would and that was so ugly. and that she liked him. i was pissed. then came thanksgiving weekend and we made out and kissed a lot in the first couple hours we saw each other. we also cuddled. we were going to my homecoming together. while she was in the shower, i went threw her phone and saw that they had been hooking up a lot longer than she told me and that they had had sex. i was crushed and during the dance, she could tell that soemthing was up and i told her and she said we would talk about it later and we ended up making the most out of the dance. we grinded and made out. and then on the way home we listened to our songs and when we got home we had a hardcore make out and we went pretty far and almost had sex. after that i asked her if we could talk and she said yes and after all the stuff that had happened to me in the past month i started crying. and she started crying and was saying that she was a terrible person and the only reason that i am hurt and crying all the time. and then so the next day like before she left we hugged and she pulled me in for a kiss and this kinda surprised me since she really only liked me physcially and only a lil as a bf the night before. so this past week has had its ups and downs and on wednesday night we talked and she said she didnt wanna be keep an open mind again for xmas break but she agreed on hooking up and hanging out and going along with my plans that i told her about that i had made for just me and her. wednesday night we fought a lil bc she was at the guys dorm and she had been kinda making me jealous but instead of falling for it i told her how much better i was and stuff (which i actually am) and she never denyed this. then the next day we talked about the night before and she told me that she was not phsycially attracted anymore and she was over me but last night that wasnt the case. she sent me pics of her butt and we talked about sex and stuff like that. and she also told me things like she would if i was her bf. (whose trying to get with her and stuff). the kid isnt here this weekend and this morning when i woke up, i woke up to texts telling me everything she did last night and a pic proving this kid who wanted to get with her was sleeping on her floor not her bed and stuff. and then we were talking about stuff we would do to each other and talking bout us buying a shore house when were older (like we did when we went out) and it makes my chances look good. but it might go back to being a lil rough when this kid gets back to college after the weekend but i will see her in exactly two weeks and then i will have three weeks. so if shes acting like this now imagine three weeks when the kid isnt around. she really likes him apparently but likes me just phsycailly. im planning on writting a long letter and taking her to an eagles game and maybe buying her something from tiffanys but idk. i just really gotta get her back. i love her. please help me get her back. btw she goes to college 5 hours away.

[justwhoiam]

I wish I could help you, but your story is quite confusing... you said she said she's not attracted anymore, and then you said she only likes you physically? I don't know. She's with you and having sex with another guy she's conflicted with. Also, I'm not questioning your behavior, because you probably did the right thing, but why didn't you make love with her?

 

I'm not sure, but in several parts of your story, it looks like she considers you as a dear friend, so she loves you, but in the friends zone. It seems like Forrest Gump and the girl he loves.