sickofitallat25 Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=green][/color] Quick synopsis of my situtation: Boyfriend (BF) and I were together for all of 8 years. Have a daugher together, she is now 6. Things got messed up and with him losing his job 2 years ago, let his life fall apart. Cheated, and things have been off and on since. Mainly he's had a 2 g-friends since then, one was/is still in the picture, and we both let him convince us "we were the one he wanted to be with" and dealt with it, figuring he'd change his ways. We got an apartment together exactly a year ago, and two days after we got moved in, he changed his mind, and left me with the lease. Well, about the beginning of this year, I was on birthcontrol pills, and the off and on again thing, resulted in me becoming pregnant. Well, he's broken things off with ex, moved back in to just support me during the pregnancy andhelp me out. BUT he lost his job, so he hasnt been able to help out, and is stil in search of a job. Things between me and him just hvnt been happening anymore (the feeling is gone). And just recently the ex filed bull**** charges against him, and landed him in jail. I, being the dummy that i am, bailed him out (using my rent money), because it was agreed that I'd just move in with my dad, and pay the apt complex at a later date. So....... even after the jail thing, the ex has STILL come back into the picture. Oh, forgot to mention that because of this relationship with her, he ended up with his car getitng repo'd b/c he was paying more attention to paying her rent, and getting her out of HER ****ed up problems, than paying his carnote. So he's moved in w/me, using my car. (BUT all of it does have his name on it, so he thinks it's partialy his, even though he doesnt pay for sh*t). My question is, I am 7 1/2 mo pregnant, he is now wanting to catch up on the rent (I am unable to pay now) in order for US not to get kicked out, and wants to sign another lease with me! I am so against this and I told him that I am not up for his HELP or whatever he'd like ot call it while I am on the back burner (or so he'd like to think). The only reason I am still here, is b/c I dont want to renig on the current lease, and he's so controlling, there's no way/time for me to move w/out it turening into a bad situation and without him knowing. WHAT am I supposed to do to get him out? I just want to get on with my life, and with someone who will want to be with me %100. Not someone who's unsure, and unwilling to change (aka: give up ex) until "I can be the woman he wants". Why should I bother with him, when he's still seeing her? I SHOULDNT. Help me here. (fresh ideas on ending this fair and square, and getitng it DONE AND OVER WITH). I am 25 darnit, I should be enjoying my pregnancy and my daughter, and all I have is stress. Thanks you guys!
overseas2004 Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 Ill tell you what you should do. Call Jerry Springer. You are a shoe-in to get on the show especially if you agree to a brawl while pregnant. Ok... you wanted advice.... Isn't it obvious what you should do? Why do you care so much about the stupid lease? You can always settle this amicably with the landlord I am sure. You don't have to keep living there. Plus most states have laws which will limit you only to paying one or two months rent after you have broken a lease. I don't know how much your rent is but that seems to be a small price to pay to be rid of the LOSER. Yet I still have to question in your e-mail whether you are truly ready to be rid of him. You mention at some point that you would want him if he was ready to dump the ex. Hmmm that gives me reason to worry. He wont really change.. you must know this somewhere in the pit of your stomach ... don't you? Since it does not seem to be that you can have this man in the fashion you want him.. that is without his ex... Then you need to move on. Yes, its going to be hard as a single mom, but you wont be the first person in history to attempt this and be successful at it. And you are right about not needing the stress especially while you are pregnant. I have lost a child this way and I don't see why you would want to tempt fate. Over who... a jobless loser who keeps hopping from bed to bed???? Is he really worth it??? Or can you do better? Regards, Overseas2004
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