habibi1981 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 My ex recently got married about a week ago, because she got pregnant. After we broke up she continued living with me. While a few things happened in the "FWB" with her and I, her relationship with her current husband was always on, and off again. When she finally found out she was pregnant, (I was obviously the first to know since we live together) she immediately cried and stated repeatedly she never wanted a child from this man. Weeks on end this was the consensus. And even considered terminating the pregnancy. Long story short. She is now married to a man she doesn't love, and he doesn't like her talking to me, and depending so much on me. She still calls me behind his back, and texts me... Asks me to choose names for the baby.. She obviously misses me. The plot thickens.. because while she is only married to this gentleman for the baby, and isn't in love. She is confused about being with a man, or (me) a woman A lot of her dispensable things still remain at my house, And the last text I received stated "Thank you, because if it wasn't for you I don't know what I would do. You solve everything in my life." Any thoughts?
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Some people like to have options and back-ups in the side wings. How do you do this? Breadcrumbs. Give the person enough of a glimmer so she hangs on hoping you'll come to your senses and pick her because things are rocky and unpalatable in her current arrangement. So she complains about her new husband, claims she doesn't love him and keeps some odds and ends at your place. You stay hooked and interested even though technically she dumped you for him. It's serving her purposes. I hate to say this, but regardless of what she might tell you, she made her choice for someone else while you were an option. She left you, picked this guy, dated him, married him, and is starting a family with him. I don't mean to be hurtful, but her life is progressing and you're stuck in limbo hoping she might come back. Her words aren't matching her actions. At the end of the day, actions are reality. If her words meant anything, she would still be with you. She's not. Your sitting at a dead end waiting and hoping she'll open a door. She'll keep you hanging as long as it works for her. Pick a different path. Reclaim your life and your joy. Find someone who is excited about loving you and being with you...and only you. Ditch Mrs. "Confused" who is doing things she purportedly doesn't want to do, like marry a man and have his child. Find someone who will prioritize you over others. Cut all ties and communication with her. (And trust me, she won't let you go without an emotional fight.) Don't waste time and energy on this ex. Yes, she's your ex...your very selfish ex. Forget Anne Heche. Find your Portia de Rossi. You'll be happier for it! Sorry, it's not a rosier message... 2
MyPoutine Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 her husband, Ditch Mrs. "Confused" Re-quoting for emphasis.
Imported Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Some women are scary. Wish they came with warning labels.
Radu Posted December 13, 2012 Posted December 13, 2012 You guys broke up. She continued to rely on you for emotional support [emotional tampon if you will], throughout this entire debacle. She wants you to 'fix' her, and solve her problems but she is not strong enough to stand by your side, to risk herself. You have no obligation towards her, you two are not a couple anymore. Send her things to her new home, block her over all media and find someone better.
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