na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I'm trying to get over my ex just like most of you. My biggest problem is that I can't stop having these unrealistic expectations that one day she'll want to talk to me and get back together. Whenever I tell myself things like this, it keeps me from moving on. I saw I had a new text earlier and I was convinced that it would be her. It wasn't. It probably will never be her because I'm pretty sure that she is over me but I don't want to check her facebook or twitter or anywhere else to find out and hurt myself more. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 When you are ready to be real with yourself you will be. Might not be low enough yet.
cavalier99 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 At least come Monday when your dad blocks her you wont need to worry about the texts! I understand the hope that they might come back, however unrealistic. The funny thing is i don't want her back but still hope for it. I think it is an ego thing. My fantasy is telling her why i wont take her back as she begs forgiveness. Works for me lol. My ex like your has a new BF and left me for him. We are idiots to want to wait for them. Snap out of it. Imagine they are soooo happy. They love the sex ecetera and they are gone forever. Ie NO HOPE. It is for the best to think this. And blocking her and complete NC will not let you see her life at all and it will move you along. I have no idea what has happened to my ex in the last 2 months. She might have a new job, she might be with him or not. She might be missing me..no clue and i like it that way. It is becoming like a distant dream because i know nothing. Disappear Ninja
Author na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 What do you mean "might not be low enough yet"? I know cavalier, the hardest part will be telling my dad to block it for me because once I do that there's no going back. I'm not going to tell him to unblock it afterwards because there really won't be any reason to. I'm happy that I don't know what's going on in her life because if I did, it wouldn't help me at all. I'm sure these unrealistic expectations and scenarios that I play in my head will be gone eventually... hopefully sooner than later.
Mer91 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Rip the bandaid off. And find something to distract yourself. Hows school going? are you overweight? have you learned to play an instrument? Now is the time you need to learn to be yourself again. You are the single you with baggage and you have to sort through the baggage and stand proud. Take the lessons learned from the relationship and have a good time. Im not saying start hooking up or getting in another relationship right away. But improve yourself and find yourself.
dyzfunctioned Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I know how you feel. Met up with my ex today and asked her on a date. To my surprise she agreed. To my even bigger surprise, she followed it up with saying she slept with someone a few days ago. Even after that I wanted her back bad enough to say we could make it work if she dropped the other guy out of her life. 15 minutes later I texted her and basically said **** this.
Author na49 Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 I'm not really "focusing" on her anymore. She is still a thought though (not a positive thought, just a thought). I really know that once I block her number I can breath a sigh of relief and know that there is no way of me ever having to hear from her again. A random note, I think she talks to one of my friends still. Should I tell my friend to delete her on facebook? I don't want to sound like a jerk to my friend, he can talk to whoever he wants to but I'd prefer if the friends that haven't deleted her on facebook would do that for me. So how could I ask them to without coming off the wrong way? I got rid of all of her friends and don't talk to any of them.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 What did I mean by low enough? Usually when a person wants to change the way they feel, think, or how they are, and do not do so...means they have not yet reached a point where they have a deep realization to change for their own good. I have witnessed spectacular changes made by people when they have emotionally and pyshically been brought to a ruin and had enough of being low.
source24 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Don't make someone a priority if they can't do the same for you. You deserve better. And maybe that will be there in the future, but as of now it isn't. And for that very reason, you need to try to move on and find someone, maybe not a relationship, maybe just friends who will make you a priority.
LostOne1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Don't make someone a priority if they can't do the same for you. You deserve better. And maybe that will be there in the future, but as of now it isn't. And for that very reason, you need to try to move on and find someone, maybe not a relationship, maybe just friends who will make you a priority. or better yet make yourself a priority for now. So that we make ourselves better and stronger and ready for a new relationship.
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