Cetan Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 I will try and keep a long story short. My thanks for reading. So, I am 23, she is 19, and we are in a long distance relationship (I didn't post this in the LDR forum because my problem is less to do with that than other factors). Things were fine at first, she was interested and I heard from her a lot. Over the last couple months, she just hasn't been as interested in this thing. I'd go a couple weeks without hearing from her, we'd argue about it, things would come good for a week and then the process would begin again. I suppose I'm partly to blame for that with my actions, by always being the one coming to her in these situations and so forth. Silly me, thinking that everything would be fine just because we were in a relationship, we'd gone past the should-we-shouldn't-we thing and called it official. It only hit me last night that she is young and will change her mind at the drop of a hat, and this is why this is happening. So, I need a way to raise her interest levels. I have but one idea- tell her that she's not the only one competing for me any more, nothing has happened between myself and this other girl but we both have eyes and know how to use them. I'd never cheat, but we're both kind of interested in each other. I don't want to lose my girlfriend, but we can't keep on doing this thing, it's really painful for me. But I don't know how or when to bring this up, and it's only one idea. Do you guys have any other ideas on how I can raise her interest levels?
CarrieT Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Seriously, don't even try... At 19, she has a LOT of growing and learning left to do and the last thing she should be trying to do is establish a relationship with someone who isn't even around. Sorry, but you would both be better off just experiencing life for a while and if - or when - you get back together, you can see if there is still mutual interest after you both have matured a bit.
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