denxnis Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 My ex recently left me for another man she is working with. Her and I were together for 6 years. I found out this guy was flirting with her frequently at work fully aware that she was in committed relationship with me. When I met with my ex a few days ago I kept looking over her shoulder thinking this guy would show up. She said, "don't worry he isn't coming over tonight" , hinting that I might be afraid of him showing up or something?? Anyways, I don't want my ex thinking I'm some coward, I broke up with her because I knew something was going on and now I know for sure there was. What do you guys think? I was planning to drop all the gifts she gave me off at her house when he is there. I feel like confronting her/him is better than keeping all this anger inside of me. I don't plan to yell or threaten them, just show her that I'm not afraid to see her when he is there. I have been nice to her lately and am starting to feel like some coward and that is just not who I am.
Balzac Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Trash the gifts or donate them to a homeless shelter. Resist your urge to have contact with her or him. Have some pride. Move on. Anger is an emotion but the actions you contemplate are bad decisions. 3
mammasita Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Honestly, who cares what they think. I agree, donate or trash and move on. Personally I would donate. 2
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Toss them (or donate them, pawn them, whatever.) Personally, I like to toss stuff in the trash and delete everything electronic. Don't go over. It just shows that she still matters a lot to you. These are gifts, not loans? Why would she now want them back? It would be petty to return them. Besides, it would seem as if you're trying to find any excuse to see her and keep the lines of communication open, which can seem pathetic. Sorry. Hard as it is, let this go. Right now, unfortunately you don't matter to her. Neither would these gifts. It's an excuse. You know that. Stop worrying about what she and this new guy think of you. That's irrelevant. You're just going to have to ignore her while she's with him. Sorry you're going through this... 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 I agree with everyone. Nothing you do will alter events. What is done is done. You'll only increase your pain with this. They won't care eitherway. 1
charlietheginger Posted December 2, 2012 Posted December 2, 2012 Id keep the gifts... If she ask about them just say im keeping them Im not the one that is a twotimming whore U gave me gifts so they are mine....
Author denxnis Posted December 2, 2012 Author Posted December 2, 2012 Id keep the gifts... If she ask about them just say im keeping them Im not the one that is a twotimming whore U gave me gifts so they are mine.... Haha that made me laugh, thanks charlie.
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