Biscous Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Fast forward...I broke NC with my ex prior to Thanksgiving. After five months NC. Her constant calls got to me. I saw her during Thanksgiving. We had sex a couple of times, expressed our feelings. I would say it was close to where we left off in our relationship. It was good. She apologized to me several times and said how much she loves me and wishes the best for me, even if it isn't with her. She said something along the lines of "If you find someone else to make you happy before I get to you, don't let me stop you". Now I'm back home as is she. Thousands of miles apart (me in TX now, her now in NY). I don't know what her motives are now. She said she wants to keep working until she can get a new car and save up more before she makes her next steps in life. She claims she wants to be with me. Not sure about why she texts me sporadically once. I respond and she doesn't text me for a day then says "Do you not like texting me?". Frustrating to deal with. Last night she asked for my address because she wanted to send me a gift. I obliged. She wanted to call me up. Said she misses me. Yet when we talk NOW after I saw her Thanksgiving she is very short with our conversations. I'm fairly neutral. At this point I don't mind giving her a second chance, but ONLY if she moves out to Texas with me. I'm not doing long distance with her again. She knows my career is here and I'm staying for a while. I'm not going to be some second option for her. What is annoying is I don't know her motives right now. Monkey branching or what. Why would she offer to buy me a gift around this time if we aren't together? When I saw her during Thanksgiving she even spent money on me, as I did for her some, but not to the same degree. Is she trying to win me back or trying to diffuse me and turn me into a friend?
Gottabestrong Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Sounds like she wants to get back together. You say you both 'expressed your feelings' over Thanksgiving. Well, what did she say? Also when she called you all these months. What did she tell you?
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Tell her you want a second go at it, tell her the only way it'll work is if she moves out to TX. If she says no, it solves all your problems, answers all your questions. What do you really have to lose?
Author Biscous Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 Sounds like she wants to get back together. You say you both 'expressed your feelings' over Thanksgiving. Well, what did she say? Also when she called you all these months. What did she tell you? She apologized for breaking up with me and the things she did. That she's undeserving of any relationship with me and cares for me a lot. The feeling encompassed us simply being comfortable with one another again, she did mention about wanting to be out there with me, but she has to work in NY right now and not sure what she's going to do. I think the sporadic texts is what is annoying me. Like she texted me the other night. I called her up and she maybe talked to me 3-4 minutes because she was out with coworkers and said she would call me back. Well no callback now. Not sure if she's calling me when she's bored or if she is genuinely busy (which I know she has a busy schedule somewhat but still).
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