colejack Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 So far, I've only had a little bit of success with women, but nowhere near what I want. Every other aspect of my life is going great - great job, well-off financially, busy with lots of activities, etc. I want to date now. All through college I did a ton of activities and got a few girls but generally was more focused on schoolwork, athletics, and some other activities. I know that work has made me a very desirable guy. I've gotten some very flattering compliments recently from women who used to know my younger overweight socially awkward self and say that I've grown into a handsome and successful man, and I'm very proud of that. I never learned to use what I've got, though. I just moved into a new city with an active night life and I want to get out there and talk to women. I still carry some of my old reluctance to jump into it, but I know that if I get out there and use all I've got going for me to land some success, I can build off that. How do I get started? What can I say to those first girls I approach? That's what always stumps me. I know that I can keep a conversation and can come up with so many interesting things to talk about after a minute or two (I do improv as a hobby in NYC, so I'm good at coming up with stuff out of the blue...and making a girl laugh), but before that a girl is just a girl. Ultimately, I'm only talking with her because she's physically attractive, and I want to see if she's interesting enough for me to find attractive. I have no idea what the first thing I should say is because I know 0% about her. I feel like I should just say the first thing that comes to mind and play off of that. What are your thoughts?
Trixis4kidz Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 (I do improv as a hobby in NYC, so I'm good at coming up with stuff out of the blue...and making a girl laugh), but before that a girl is just a girl. What is she after that? Come on man really, why are you wasting people's time to even glance at this thread? Ok, fine I'll bite - how about an introduction. Hi, my name is "the guy who has no idea what to say, but I'm really successful and funny."
crude Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 You should say "I'm handsome and successful and I'm asking you out because you're attractive and I want to have sex with you." Of course you won't, and instead will say the usual "would you like to go out with me for dinner sometime." I guess the first casualty of dating is truth.
Author colejack Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 (edited) What is she after that? Come on man really, why are you wasting people's time to even glance at this thread? Ok, fine I'll bite - how about an introduction. Hi, my name is "the guy who has no idea what to say, but I'm really successful and funny." You should say "I'm handsome and successful and I'm asking you out because you're attractive and I want to have sex with you." Of course you won't, and instead will say the usual "would you like to go out with me for dinner sometime." I guess the first casualty of dating is truth. LOL, ok. I don't mean to sound like a dick with talking about myself, but hell, it's all true, and I'm seriously asking for help. I've got a lot to offer and can be charismatic in many other ways, but when it comes to approaching girls I have absolutely no prior connection to, I'm clueless. Most guys in my position now have always been good with women, so I'm like this oddball case. I feel like whenever I go out and some women might see me and be interested, they expect I'll be great at hitting on them when I'm not. Actually, those are both really good things to say. Seriously. Edited December 1, 2012 by colejack
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