Highschool Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Hey everyone, I'm 17 years old and a senior in high school, graduating this year. I've had no experience with romantic relationships before! Let's try to make this somewhat short.... There's a girl I really like, and I THINK she knows it. She's beautiful, amazing personality, everything. Going on a little date with her.... but that'll come in a bit... We're both huge geeks, she was in my friend's mother's book club (got that? ) and regularly went over to my friend's house because of this during elementary. In early high school she approached me a bit and we talked a bit, but I didn't really start talking to her much until grade 11. She sat beside me in programming and we talked SO much. Now, she's my grade 12 comp sci class again, same thing and we still talk a lot... In grade 11 I danced with her at our semi-formal dance a bit and got the courage to ask her for a slow song at the end.. only one, but it was worth it. Got her number at the start of grade 12 (for a "homework buddy" but she seemed to know that I was into her, from what I could tell). We've been texting like crazy (almost every day, and when we do it's usually until she goes to bed). Get a bit of flirting in too I just asked her on the weekend if she had seen Skyfall, she said she had but would have totally gone with me. I then thought of the Hobbit after telling her I'd try to find something else good playing/soon to be playing, and had said she'd be up for seeing whatever. Now we're planning on seeing the Hobbit when it comes out, I think she likes the idea, but told me yesterday that she hadn't been thinking about it too much (when I was walking home with her and asked about a specific time and date) and that we'll talk when it's out. I'm not sure where to go from here? Just wait or something? It's cold here, I'm not doing much this weekend and I don't think she is either. I don't have my full license though (same with her) so we'd have to ride for a few minutes to the local cafe for coffee if I asked... should I see if she's doing anything this weekend? I think she's free.... I haven't explicitly told her how I felt about her yet, and I need some help.
dasein Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Don't tell her how you feel because you shouldn't know how you feel yet. Try to avoid early movie and dinner dates. Do something active and fun where you can walk around and flirt. No heavy "I like you do you like me?" talk, never. Ask out on fun active dates. Kiss her when the time is right. Try not to schedule dates around something coming in the future other than big dates like school dances. Instead, figure out when you want to go out, find something cool that she would enjoy, then ask her out specifically for that. Try to cut texting down ALOT during the early going, and contact her only to ask her out. After several dates, you will both know if you are on the same page, and can discuss exclusivity and increase the contact some. Good luck.
Author Highschool Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 (edited) Don't tell her how you feel because you shouldn't know how you feel yet. Try to avoid early movie and dinner dates. Do something active and fun where you can walk around and flirt. No heavy "I like you do you like me?" talk, never. Ask out on fun active dates. Kiss her when the time is right. Try not to schedule dates around something coming in the future other than big dates like school dances. Instead, figure out when you want to go out, find something cool that she would enjoy, then ask her out specifically for that. Try to cut texting down ALOT during the early going, and contact her only to ask her out. After several dates, you will both know if you are on the same page, and can discuss exclusivity and increase the contact some. Good luck. Hmm, well thanks for the advice. I just wanted to tell her that I really enjoy spending time around her and such. Maybe not yet? I work out at the local rec center and she works out at home, we're both fairly fit but I have no idea what I could do with her with the seasonal weather. I'm not a big fan of skating..... come to think of it though, she used to figure skate and likes it.... The things we do will probably be inside regardless of what we end up doing, here comes the Canadian winter. I just assumed that since she likes movies (and the same ones that I do, I might add) that the Hobbit sounded like a good idea that she'd say yes to, and she did. It was kinda a spur-of-the-moment thing and I didn't actually think she'd say yes, but it made my night when she said she'd be into going with me.... she might already assume that I like her a lot, because the way I've been acting + asking her to go solo to a movie with me implies that I like her at least a bit, right? She's also the one who's been starting the long text conversations too, I usually don't start but I'd rather see her and stuff, texting gets boring after a bit. Oh, and I definitely plan on asking her out to dances and prom, no dances this year yet though... The teachers are in an uproar over that bill that was passed here in Ontario, our school didn't have homecoming yet and semi seems to not be scheduled yet. Edited December 1, 2012 by Highschool
dasein Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Show her by asking her out and giving her a fun time, you won't need to tell her anything. Skating? Ohhh yes. ask her to teach you how to skate whether you already know how or not. Great idea.
Author Highschool Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 Show her by asking her out and giving her a fun time, you won't need to tell her anything. Skating? Ohhh yes. ask her to teach you how to skate whether you already know how or not. Great idea. Thanks! I'll probably have to find my skates heh.
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