DreDay Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Me and my girlfriend were together for only 3 months and i know it was only a short time, but she potentially was the one. The sex was great, my friends and family loved her as did her friends and family love me, we shared the same interests, everything was just so perfect. So one day out the blue, she breaks up with me via text. I meet up with her later in the day to discuss the issue, she says she thinks she got into this relationship too fast and just isn't ready for it. She stressed that she still loved me, but the future is scary for her due to her EX messing her over previously. She's not over the damage he's caused yet, I get that, but its left me heartbroken, cos I didn't even do anything wrong! I should hate her for what she's done to me, but I cant... Moving on a week later, I spoke to her and everything seemed like it used to be, we talked over the next few days but she is still not sure about getting back involved. So I decided that we need to have a break from each other. Simply because I'm not handling it well and I think she needs time to herself to get over her last relationship. The thing that frustrates me the most is that her EX was a druggy, unemployed and controlling. I'm none of those things, I encouraged her to go out with her friends, I've never touched drugs in my life, I got a career and a nice car! I am truly one of those good guys, but as per usual, the nice guy always seem to finish last! What scares me is that I said I'm not going to contact her, but i'm so scared she's gonna forget about me, which is not what I want... should I stay in her face so she don't forget me? Or do you think she will come back to me herself if I leave her alone? I need to know I've done the right thing!
na49 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Nice guy here, so I know how it feels. My ex left me for a guy who is apparently an alcoholic but she is making excuses for him. Your ex won't never contact you again and forget about you, but she won't call you back and get back together with you either. At least that is how you should look at it so you don't wait around for her. I'd go NC now, don't check on her and obviously don't talk to her. She doesn't need her annoying desperate ex boyfriend constantly bothering her. You'll feel much better the longer you go without hearing from her.
mishy Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 it strikes me that maybe the issue is that her ex created a lot of drama (drugs etc) , and you being nice guy, maybe she feels something is missing. Some women are attracted to guys who are trouble.
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