Tmo2 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Hi, I was dumped about 6 weeks ago after a 2.5 year relationship (long distance during school year) . After meeting face-to-face 3 days after the break-up we agreed that she needed space and that we would contact each other after school (winter break) to catch up. I immediatly started working on improving myself (I was a mess on many aspects). I was needy the first 2 weeks and couldn't no-contact. But then I stopped and went into low contact (I was wishing for no-contact but it was made about once every week since)... I believe it has been 2 weeks since I started communicating that I am over her and that I really started to feel and accept it. We never had mean exchanges, the break-up was healthy... She called me one week ago and I didn't awnser her call. (She believed I was pissed at her/ blocking her off facebook) I called her back 3 days later. At this point I inquired about the missed call. She basically just wanted some conversation (news) and to know if I was angry at her... I felt very confident while we spoke and I only told her some new and positive things about myself. She kept asking me so many details but I didnt ask her anything back... She asked me 2-3 times if was was going back home after my studies, and when was I ending.. As if she wanted us to see each other during the christmas vacation. (both of our families are in the same city although we both study elswhere (we are 100-300km apart)). Every time we spoke I feel like she wanted to know where I was in my life, what had changed etc... After I was done talking about myself I told her I had to go... She lingered to hang up, I could feel she wanted to tell me how she was doing in her personal projects and personal life. I didn't gave her that chance and told her we will talk to each other as soon as her school is over (in one week). She is a very sensitive girl, I was her first boyfriend. Sometimes I think she is second guessing herself. Although this might just be me not being over her completly. Do you think she is only trying to get some closure? How should I approch this? What should I expect when she calls back?
Trixis4kidz Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 Why are you even worried about the next call and what to expect? Have you moved on or not? That's really all that matters. If you're going to be friends, and YOU can handle that, then act like a friend. That means engaging her on what's going on in her life. It's not a one way street, where you do all the talking about what you're doing and she listens. Just because she is asking you questions about what your plans are doesn't mean she wants you back. It could mean that, but it might not. A surface observation probably means she might still be interested, but like I said, if you're not it doesn't matter - have your conversation, be nice, and move on.
Author Tmo2 Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 Why are you even worried about the next call and what to expect? Have you moved on or not? That's really all that matters. If you're going to be friends, and YOU can handle that, then act like a friend. That means engaging her on what's going on in her life. - have your conversation, be nice, and move on. I do hope for a second chance with her... I don't understand why I complicate things so much - It seems like I'm trying to figure out wich move to do in order to prove myself worthy. - It feels like unfinished buisness
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