Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Did I made a huge mistake when I tried to do the communication with my guy after perfect date? I constantly just came and say hi and regural stuff and 1 sweet text letting him know I'm into him very much, but nothing to desperate. I did it because he seems insecure and that he doesn't trust me at all, by questions he asked me like:"Are you texting to your BF?" I said he is crazy and no. He does replies to me few seconds laters when I initiated it, but he don't initiate it first. I also blew him off when hi didn't pick up my call. Told him:"I see you don't want to talk to me, I don't molest people. So long, honey!" Lol, he told me immediately:"Honey I'm busy at work, we will talk tomorrow!" Next day I was unavaliable. I've stopped for last 4 days and since then I'm unavaliable. Now I'm coming back to virtual world. Maybe its different because he doesn't live in my town. He did say many times he adores me eye to eye in real world. So did I blew it or? I won't stop ignoring him, but he knows I'm somewhere at my PC now He is like constantly busy with his double shifts...at least he says so. And it's not first time he did this to me. Ignoring me, I ignoring him back. Then running to me asking wtf is wrong with me. Then I tell him its not me, its you. When we've met I was so ignorant to him Now i changed the game to test him a bit and give him some confidence if he lost it. Now I'm back to closing myself off I love games, he is very competitive by nature too. Feel like a teen when we both are very grown ups.
clia Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I'm confused about what happened. I constantly just came and say hi and regural stuff... After your date you "came and say hi?" What does that mean? Where? How many times? and 1 sweet text letting him know I'm into him very much, but nothing to desperate The appropriate thing to do nowadays after a perfect first date is to send him a text message letting him know you had a great time and would like to see him again. I personally think it is too much to send a text saying you are "into him very much." by questions he asked me like:"Are you texting to your BF?" I said he is crazy and no. When did this happen? Were you on your phone texting during your "perfect date?" If so, no wonder he is insecure. Stay off you phone during a date. It's rude. He does replies to me few seconds laters when I initiated it, but he don't initiate it first. How many times have you texted him? Have you given him any opportunity to text you first? I also blew him off when hi didn't pick up my call. Told him:"I see you don't want to talk to me, I don't molest people. So long, honey!" Lol, he told me immediately:"Honey I'm busy at work, we will talk tomorrow!" Next day I was unavaliable. Now you are acting like a crazy person and need to chill out. Not everyone has their phone attached to their hip. Not everyone can immediately answer their phone when it rings, especially in the middle of the work day. For that matter, stop calling him in the middle of his work day. I wouldn't blame him if he blew you off after your reaction, frankly. I've stopped for last 4 days and since then I'm unavaliable. I don't understand this. Has he tried to contact you and you are ignoring him? If so, why? Now I'm coming back to virtual world. What does this mean? Maybe its different because he doesn't live in my town. He did say many times he adores me eye to eye in real world. Is this an online relationship? Long distance? So did I blew it or? I won't stop ignoring him, but he knows I'm somewhere at my PC now How does he know this? He is like constantly busy with his double shifts...at least he says so. And it's not first time he did this to me. Ignoring me, I ignoring him back. Then running to me asking wtf is wrong with me. Then I tell him its not me, its you. When we've met I was so ignorant to him Now i changed the game to test him a bit and give him some confidence if he lost it. Now I'm back to closing myself off I love games, he is very competitive by nature too. Feel like a teen when we both are very grown ups. You are both acting like idiots. Stop playing games and stop trying to test him. Frankly, it is silly if you are both "grown ups." Has he asked you out on a second date? If not, then you are engaging in pure fantasy at this point. 1
Later82012 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 You are both acting like idiots. Stop playing games and stop trying to test him. Frankly, it is silly if you are both "grown ups." Cannot agree with this more. People need to stop playing games at least where they are seriously interested.
Author Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 1. I said hi and regural stuff online with my IMs 2. He told me eye to eye when we were cuddling that he is very much into me and that he adores me. That I'm fun etc. So since I've seen he is insecure later I texted him what I have. 3. He was walking me to airport so he asked me that when I called a friend to pick me up when I get home. 4. Unfortunately he just intiated it 1 time, after I sent him that sms how I like him very much. But he said he was at work so I didn't molest him with chat much on IM. I just said ok and few lines we chatted then I let him do his work. I've initiated it every other day last week, few times 5. LOL yes I know I was a freak with that stupid message when he didn't reply in next 2 minutes I was semi drunk, got back from a bar with my girlfriends. I couldnt help it. I don't know really his working day is very long since he do 2 jobs. He is constantly online by his laptop and working from moring till dawn. 6. That I'm coming back to virtual world means, I'm turning on my IM software online. I had big projects lately at my job, so I had to focus on that. 7. & 8. He doesn't live in my town, so yes its long ditance fling. He can see my online status, I was gone for a couple of days. So he can contact me when he likes. He knows I'm home somewhere 9. He told me by himself that he will come and see me in a month or two. He initiated it. Maybe I should stop playing games, but you know I feel like **** that I had an urge to initiate it first. What was I suposed to do? But since I was replying to your questions, I've realised I never got him a chance to make a move after our date. All I know that I'm giving him his space to see if he is really busy with his work and works 18 hours a day or its something else.
Author Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 Cannot agree with this more. People need to stop playing games at least where they are seriously interested. But how do I do that? I feel like ****...Unfortunately I don't know why. Should I contact him again? Today when I see him online? I think not...I was away for a few days. If he is really working as he says, I seriously don't wanna molest him much.
Author Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 Cannot agree with this more. People need to stop playing games at least where they are seriously interested. Oh and by the way. Him being so brief and distance when he is underpresaure at his work makes me feel like ****! When we hanged out he was seriously the guy who shows a woman in every aspect in a right way he is into her with 100% percent. And since I've got back he seems so distanted, so I am really really confused.
clia Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I'm guessing English isn't your first language? You might want to use the word "bother" instead of "molest." I think that is more what you mean and a better context ... Is this the first time you met him in person? Did you have sex with him? I tend to think you should wait for him to contact you, since as you said, he knows when you are home since he can stalk your activity on IM. Or, try to find a guy who lives near you to date so you don't have to engage in all this IMing and virtual nonsense.
Author Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 Yes I should probably do all you said. Yes, we had sex because I wanted to do it and I initiated it, but suddenly after that he became romantic and cuddling, we didn't do it anymore after. That confused me too because at first I've thought he just wanted something casual. I didn't even think he wanted to visit me and so on...That is why I fell for him in the end, I've seen he is a nice guy with manners
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