I feel like I'm more interested in her than she is interested in me.

[Knill]

Been in a LDR for 8 months now, me 17 and her 18.

 

Basically, I'm always the one to ask for phone calls, ask if we can webcam, ask for pictures etc.

 

When it comes to pictures, I try so send her one every couple of days but right now, I don't feel like sending her anything. She never asks for a picture of me. I ALWAYS have to ask her for a picture of her, she will never just think that I would like a picture and send me one, I have to ask, and when I do ask she say's she'll send it before she goes to school, then it turns to she'll send it at lunch, then it's after school and then some times I never end up getting any picture from her at all. It just makes me feel like she doesn't care about seeing me and she doesn't care about me seeing her either.

 

Phone calls, we used to have every night before bed and I really loved them but over the past few months, they have gone. First it started with her making up excuses as to why she couldn't have a phone call and then it turned to me not even bothering to ask anymore because I knew how she would respond. She rings me occasionally if I haven't talked to her for a long time just to see where I am but when I tell her, she is quick to get off the phone and tells me to talk to her on facebook. I love hearing her voice but I feel like she doesn't even care for hearing mine.

 

Webcam is the most annoying though because I really get excited when she says we can but that usually ends in disappointment. I've had weeks before where we arranged a day to webcam, then she didn't turn up or she made an excuse so we re-arranged for the next day... then the next day.... the next... The whole week went by and we didn't do anything. I'm always up for chatting with her or webcam but she is never.

I managed to get her on webcam 2 times over the past 2 weeks and each time, I've said that we should do it more often and she agrees but then we don't do it because of her..

Last night we was talking over facebook and we agreed to webcam after her tv programmes finished so I left her alone and when it was time, she disappeared without saying anything. She later came back saying she had an argument with her parents which is fair enough but she never mentioned anything about wanting to webcam now that she was back so I didn't bother to reply because I was really annoyed at her for ruining our plans again.

Today, I finished work early and she was out of school early so we agreed to webcam and talk over mic in the early afternoon but she had to clean her room first. She said it would take an hour so I waited and waited... after asking her how its going, when she'll be ready to webcam... 3 hours later I tell her "We're not going to get to webcam, are we?" which turns into an argument and now she's gone to the hairdressers.

 

I just don't understand her lack of caring. Is it normal for her to not give a **** about me? Does anybody else go through the same thing?

 

When I read stuff about LDR's I get really jealous of people saying how much they love going on webcam with one another or how much they loved spending 4 hours on skype. That stuff never happens for me. I would love for it but she always finds an excuse to get out of having a call or webcam.

 

Please help me, I have no idea what to do to get it into her brain how much she is hurting me.

 

I've told her how I feel but she just says "sorry" and doesn't do anything about it

[justwhoiam]

So, you need to see her all the time. 5 pictures a week to me would be really challenging. Girls are not as visual as guys. I mean I like seeing him, but I don't feel the urge to see him all the time. It happens, but less frequently. What I need is contact. Frequent contact. In one way, you should be happy. Her love is not linked to your looks. That doesn't mean your looks don't count a thing... but love it's beyond that.

 

You're coming across as too needy and demanding. Let her breathe. About calls, I'm not sure but are you complaining about the fact that she doesn't call you as often as you do? Or when you call she's not available? Why do you have to arrange when to call? Just call when you feel like calling. If it will last 5 minutes instead of 40, then fine. You call her some other times.

 

I guess you're focusing on the wrong things. Also, are you going to visit her now and then? How far are you? Have you ever met her?

[Knill]

So, you need to see her all the time. 5 pictures a week to me would be really challenging. Girls are not as visual as guys. I mean I like seeing him, but I don't feel the urge to see him all the time. It happens, but less frequently. What I need is contact. Frequent contact. In one way, you should be happy. Her love is not linked to your looks. That doesn't mean your looks don't count a thing... but love it's beyond that.

 

You're coming across as too needy and demanding. Let her breathe. About calls, I'm not sure but are you complaining about the fact that she doesn't call you as often as you do? Or when you call she's not available? Why do you have to arrange when to call? Just call when you feel like calling. If it will last 5 minutes instead of 40, then fine. You call her some other times.

 

I guess you're focusing on the wrong things. Also, are you going to visit her now and then? How far are you? Have you ever met her?

 

We went through a period where I didn't get any picture, any calls or anything like that for a couple of months as she got really addicted to an online game which she quit when we met. She was on it all day whenever she could be and she literally replaced me for that. She kept it secret from me for a while and when I found out, it all clicked as to why she didnt do anything. Her parents went away for 2 weeks and she always said she was super busy so we couldn't talk but I later found out she was just paying the game.

She would tell me she couldnt talk on skype for whatever reason but she would be on skype with guys from the game. That really upset me and I guess part of me still hurts and is scared that it could happen again.

 

We have to arrange because if we don't, they don't happen.

 

We get to visit roughly once a month

[justwhoiam]

We get to visit roughly once a month

Good. Some issues are better talked out in person. As you might know, 90% of a person's communication is non verbal.