7 months NC and some new findings

November 30, 2012

Realized today has been 7 months NC, 9 since the breakup. I probably wouldn't be writing here today but I feel the need because of some recent events.

I still fantasize about contacting her but I doubt I ever will. Likewise, I doubt she will ever contact me. The end of the relationship was very passive, and her and I are both very passive in our own regard. Time just goes on, nothing expected, nothing done.

Anyways, yesterday I was on Facebook. I deleted her LONG ago, but her name still pops up on friends feeds etc. I noticed she had a hyphenated last name, so I was like WTF? I clicked on her profile. Apparently she was married in October! Married! I knew her 12 years and dated her for 5. She said multiple times that she was never really interested in marriage, yet 9 months into her new relationship she's married.

I don't know the whole story, but here's what I do know...

She definitely left me for someone else. How long that was going on is beyond me. Seeing this makes me feel it was going on well before we broke up. A mutual friend has met her new man. She said that he barely speaks english! She thinks it happened for citizenship reasons. Makes me laugh inside.

So, all that being said, I still feel ok. It has just been a big "wow" moment for me. Having known someone for 12 years and realizing they were not who you thought they were sort of warps your perspective on life. I feel like I dodged a bullet.

Hard to believe that I'm close to a year since the breakup. This has been a hell of a year for me, and I truly feel I am stronger, more confident and knowledgeable than ever. I feel change all around me. It still sucks at times, but I know I am moving forward.

November 30, 2012

Sounds like my story I knew my ex wife of 3 years she couldn't have kids .like you I'm coming up on a year and shes not only married but had a baby .ugh I hope both are ex get what's coming to them