Cafe au lait Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I'm in a fairly new LDR where both of us are young. I was thinking about how often I talk with my boyfriend. In the last 2 weeks, he has sent me a snail mail letter (just a regular "how are you doing" type of thing, nothing romantic) and started 3 Skype IM chats and 1 phone call. He said he would call this week and did not. As for me, I have started 6 Skype IM chats. He doesn't have facebook or texting so we're limited in that regard. I was wondering how frequently you keep in touch with your SO? I've heard of people who talk twice a day, or at least once a day, so I'm not sure if I should be worried or not. Personally, I wish we would talk more but then I feel like I'm coming across as clingy...
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 When I was in my LDR...I would often speak with my ex,everyday/night. Hours as much as possible and cam as much as possible. Communication is extremely important in a LDR...do not let it slip but ofc, both of you must live your lives too. Welcome to LDRs young friend...be careful and aim to see one another someday(depending if you can.age etc) I was in LDR for four years...wouldst been closer but things happened. Anyway gl!
makingithappen Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 (edited) My partner and I do skype video chats twice a week for about 2-3 hours, in addition to our regular phone texting everyday. I know a lot of LDR couples talk almost everyday for long periods, but we're quite comfortable with our current schedule, since we're both busy with things (and there's the 7-hour time difference). If you feel like you're not communicating that much though, maybe it's good to bring it up, esp. since he has limited communication means - both sides need to make an effort to keep the relationship going strong Edited November 30, 2012 by makingithappen
Bethshek Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Constant communication with your special friend is essential and important in your relationship however, communication doesn't only mean talking, but there are different ways that communication is possible. Such are social media communication, phone or just leave love notes and sendoutcards is the most easiest and convenient way of saying thoughtful words to your loved one. You can make you own design so that it will be worth remembering.
justwhoiam Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 You mentioned both of you are very young, so you can't ask people who are in their 30s or 40s what they do and what their relationship is like. I mean, if you're 16, it's a given it'll be totally different. Btw, you know what? You'd be missing him even if you were talking to him all day long... Finally, I would say: him calling once a week is fine. For the rest of the week, you can communicate by email, skype, & send e-cards. GL
Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I'm in the same situation. But for me is a bit different, he isn't also romantic too much when I start skype chats, but he does replies immediately to me. We've met 2 weeks ago and last week I've molested him almost every other day. But he did reply to me immediately, just that he says he is too busy with his 2 jobs. I'm 26, but still act a bit younger. I think age doesn't matter. Women whether they are teens or older they still get a bit wacko when they fall in love You'll see, don't get sad like me. I'm unexperienced into those LD things, first time ever, but I'm hanging on good. I've told him I'm busy and started to ingore him for last 3 days, I'll see how things will go from his side and how the whole situation will develop. I don't want to molest him like some psycho anymore. Hang on, he'll get in contact with you if he is into this. I don't wanna dissapoint you or scare you, but I think when 2 people get into these situations, at start its all so scary and they maybe get scared. Its nice to know you have someone thats waiting for you at some other part of the world and cares for you, but...Its complicated too because trust is needed to be earnt. I still don't have trust in my guy, because I don't know him and he just seems so distant lately. I think he doesn't trust me either. But at least he is giving me some clues, because he isn't ignoring me when I want to communicate. Belive me time will show!! With my guy I was in the same situation before we've met last time. He totally ignored me on moments too. I thought it was over sometimes and that he doesn't wanna meet me at all, my head was exploding, but we have in the end. I guess men are sometimes like this, I know mine is like this, he ignores me for days, but always comes back suprising me. I guess we need to accept the way they are, or think about it, if you are not strong and think you can't handle it, let it go. Discover what you want first with yourself, then wait for a bit and in the end if you are really down or somwthing I think its not pathetic to ask him directly in not psycho way where is this going and tell him how you feel. If he cares and he is normal he will understand you and you won't loose your dignity or pride or something. If he acts like an ******* totally, don't get upset too, because it will be on his coscious, not yours. Sorry for long post, I've started to philosophy, don't know what i wrote, hope I helped a bit
Wonderlandless Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 My guy and I IM/chat off and on through out the day and try to call or Skype every night. Sometimes we can't physically talk, but we will send each other a message or two with something nice or a link to a picture, video, etc we think the other would enjoy 1
amayana Posted December 1, 2012 Posted December 1, 2012 My BF and I skype every day for 1 to 3 hours (if possible) and we text each other throughout the day too. When we don't find the time to skype, we talk on the phone for around 10 - 15 min. since it's expensive. We also share a private blog where we post pictures, funny stories/videos or music to make the 6-hour time difference more bearable. I send him a letter every month and a care package every now and then. He's not as good at writing letters but that's just the way he is and it doesn't bother me that much. I think you should discuss how much/how often you want to talk/skype each other. We found this to be most comfortable for us because we feel sad as soon as we don't get to skype for but a day. PS, he's 20 and I'm 22.
Author Cafe au lait Posted December 1, 2012 Author Posted December 1, 2012 Hi all, thanks for the advice! I've decided to wait for him to contact me next and then I plan on breaching the communication subject. What's the use of sitting here thinking about it when I could just tell him how I feel, right?
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