Necris Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship in today's culture seems to mean an exclusive sexual relationship, at least from what I get from other people. Anyway exactly as the title says is wanting a girlfriend but not wanting sex contradictory to you? What do you think?
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 No. Not if you want a good one and a nice R. Jumping into bed so fast, is common. It is disturbed...but meh. But look at all the problems ppl suffer nowadays from sex. It never was meant to be Soo public. So common.
suladas Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Sex is not the most important part, but it's a huge part. It brings you so much closer to the other person. I have no issues waiting for sex, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that didn't involve sex.
MrCastle Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 A little bit. If you don't want to **** her, you don't need to be with her. Or you can be with her and I can **** her
Nightsky Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Not wanting sex before marriage? Find a religious girl and be ready to be engaged and married inside of 2 years tops.
Mint Sauce Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Necris, do you consider yourself asexual? If so, it's best to find a girl that is asexual as well. There are large online communities about that. Google it.
El Brujo Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship in today's culture seems to mean an exclusive sexual relationship, at least from what I get from other people. Anyway exactly as the title says is wanting a girlfriend but not wanting sex contradictory to you? What do you think? Well, uhh... there's this 600-lb gorilla in the room called love... IMO anyone who doesn't know the difference between love and sex, probably also doesn't know the difference between their butt and a hole in the ground (and doesn't care). I can only speak for myself, but I'm aesthetically attracted to women, though I have my own ideas about beauty... it's just that I have no desire to have sex. Zero. Zilch.
pteromom Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 No - every person is different when it comes to sexual drive, morals regarding sex, levels of kinkiness, and prioritization of sex. The important part - and I've learned this the hard way - is to find someone similar to you on all above counts.
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Well, uhh... there's this 600-lb gorilla in the room called love... IMO anyone who doesn't know the difference between love and sex, probably also doesn't know the difference between their butt and a hole in the ground (and doesn't care). . For me, sex and love are linked, and I know I'm not the only one. OP - no, it's not necessarily contradictory, but it's important to get in a relationship with a person who feels the same way about it.
clia Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I think it is contradictory. I can't imagine loving/caring about someone enough to want them to be a boyfriend, but not ever wanting to have sex with them.
Author Necris Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 Necris, do you consider yourself asexual? If so, it's best to find a girl that is asexual as well. There are large online communities about that. Google it. This is just a random question I had its not really about me, I was talking to someone else about this and they thought I was sounding silly when I ask them the same question hence the reason I posted it on loveshack. As for your question I don't believe myself to be asexual, while I like the idea of having sex and do feel sexual attraction towards women, this may sound weird but I've grown to like being a virgin, it feels.... "special" so I don't want to just have sex with anyone, and I don't really feel like I'm really ready to have sex anyway (it maybe fun, but what of the unforeseen consequences?), plus there are religious reasons for me to not have sex at least until I'm married.
DreDay Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 A boyfriend/girlfriend relationship in today's culture seems to mean an exclusive sexual relationship, at least from what I get from other people. Anyway exactly as the title says is wanting a girlfriend but not wanting sex contradictory to you? What do you think? I think in the culture sense your probably right. But not everyone is the same, me for one! I've wanted a girlfriend for a long time (just broke up last week ) mainly cos I'm the type of person that has a lot of love to give. But hey.. that's just me!
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