Betrayed&Stayed Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 (edited) I had a hard time believing because of her 'not remembering details' but she attests that nothing happened more than what I posted earlier - I had issues because I was scared that there were 'details' she might be forgetting. However, she said there is absolutely nothing more - if there was it wouldve been remembered. My questions to you all also is how would you have handled in contacting the other 'guilty party?' I don't know how I would have done it differently - what happened is just simply how it happened...(see earlier posts). Things that make you go "Hmmm" Her version of the affair minimizes her involvement and makes the MM out to be the "bad" guy. He made the first move, she protested and "did not appreciate it" and "told him to stop". They fooled around, but she kept her clothes on. They had an affair for ONE year, but no sex. She ended it because she felt guilty (after one year!). Poor little girl. Big bad boy is sexually assaulting her at work. If she did protest the first move in the copy room, why didn't she protest move #2 through move #50. Why would he even try a second time if she really did protest? It doesn't add up because she is lying! She might not remember all of the details, but she is definitely leaving out the damning details that she does remember. She is not who you think she is (i.e. honest). She is not an innocent victim. She is in self-preservation mode. Now that MM isn't talking, she can stick to her version of the affair; being the victim. As far as contacting the MM, I don't blame you for handling it the way that you did. Are you two in counseling yet? Is she talking ownership of her affair? Edited December 17, 2012 by Betrayed&Stayed 2
Bryanp Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 Have her take a polygraph for 400 to 500 dollars and then you will know. Contact your local police department or attorney. 1
Darren Steez Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 One year of kissing? Come on now Think about it a year is a long time..a very long time, how many nights did they have together, stolen moments, times she "went out" with friends, stayed somewhere for the night? All those times you couldn't account for her whereabouts, heck even going out shopping etc, do you know what she was up to? No. Sure you forget little details but not if you have sex. She said she didn't have sex and most likely she will stick to that. The truth eventually comes out, the trust is broken, she'll fight to maintain the wavering facade of the truth as she's telling you. Arrange an afternoon for just the two of you to talk, at the same time arrange for a polygraph that same afternoon, if she's got nothing to hide then she'll take it and prove her innocence....something tells me she wont
drifter777 Posted December 17, 2012 Posted December 17, 2012 I had a hard time believing because of her 'not remembering details' but she attests that nothing happened more than what I posted earlier - I had issues because I was scared that there were 'details' she might be forgetting. However, she said there is absolutely nothing more - if there was it wouldve been remembered. My questions to you all also is how would you have handled in contacting the other 'guilty party?' I don't know how I would have done it differently - what happened is just simply how it happened...(see earlier posts). I think you handled contact with OM about as bad as you possibly could have if you actually wanted him to help you verify your wife's story. Clearly, you know the truth in your heart but don't want it confirmed by him or anyone else. The problem with your current thinking is simply that what you are doing will not help you reconcile with your wife. This thing will continue to eat away at you and sooner or later you will explode emotionally, physically, or both. You can't run from this forever. 1
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