gabriel345 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 So my ex and I... 4 yrs relationship, 3 months BU, 1 NC. I broke the NC to have the "break up talk" because we never had one. Ever since we have been contacting each other every week. At first, he was firm in the decision that he wanted to move on, a week later after our last BU conversation, we talked again and he told me he missed me. I had been dying for two months already so I took a risk and asked him out, for my surprise he said yes. Somethings happened and we didn't go but we met up and talked it out and he asked me to dinner. We had a wonderful time and he even stole kisses from me. I returned one, which I am still not sure if I should have done that. Afterwards, he contacted me but he was very short worded and the conversation was not really flowing because of that. So i thought that I should make the most of it since hey, he contacted me right? made him laugh a few times and I left. Couple of days later, he contacted me again through txt. Again, one worded, I responded (took my hour) and I get one word back. A few days later, I couldn't take it anymore, so I called and asked him out but with the purpose to put an end to the weird situation. We had a fun and at the end he kissed me again. I returned them just in case they were our last. So I took my time and later asked him, what was he doing? He told me he wanted to date again, that he wasn't talking to anyone but he couldn't give any guarantees of what would happen in the future. So I thought, no one magically come back together after all of this, I mean, we have taken our time apart and now we have to work on rekindling things. So I agreed. Also, he said that I was the one playing mental games all this time!! what? I'm just responding to what he does! Anyways, I warned him that I wasn't there for fun but I took him seriously and that if he looked for other things, he should just leave me alone. He said he did. We left and when he was about to leave he grabbed my behind! Of course, I called him out on this at once and told him not to do it again, he apologized for it and maybe embarrassed? idk.. After that, he txted me when he got home. Contacted me the next day (not so much awkwardness as before but still conv was hard so I left again). I texted him the next day, again, one word response. And now two days have passed and nothing, basically same thing as before. Who is playing whom? I thought that I should not be going after him all the time... but he says that it's me playing him. I just want him to actually start calling, having a proper conversation and ask me out again and again. I have no problem doing it but it needs to be both ways, so now I want to wait since it's even. But I leave until January in a few days so idk what should I do, any advice, input on my situation, please be as positive as you can :/
sugarSpicy Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 It sounds like he's taking you for granted. Do you think he knows that you'd avail yourself immediately if he asks you out? Do you think he knows that you want him? Is he emotionally immature? Or, perhaps, is he the type of guy who'd have several options? If the answer is yes to most of these questions, I think you know what you should do...NC for a bit. Hope this helps!
CptSaveAho Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Be positive... Your ex boyfriend broke up with you Giving you one word responses Calls/Texts at his own convenience Doesnt give you what you want You know you arent getting what you want yet you ask for it You break NC How about you leave him alone... You are pretty much asking to be treated the way you are treated
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