na49 Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) So I only will have to see my ex in classes for two more weeks and then she should disappear from my sight for a while. Well I saw her today but did everything possible to avoid looking at her. I noticed she was trying to look at me though. Well I'm going to be blocking her number, but the small piece of me that still wants her back keeps having unrealistic expectations and is telling me things like "don't block her number just in case she calls you and wants to get back together" Will this feeling go away with time? Edited November 29, 2012 by na49
ReadMyThread Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 .......When you block her number. Lol! Duh! Block her number and then YOU'LL know she can't text you that. If she wanted to be with you again SO BAD then if you blocked her number and she knew you did, she would come UP TO YOU and tell you if it was that serious. You didn't block her number. Your still considered in contact HOPING she will text you that. It's un healthy man lol.
Author na49 Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 This NC business is tough.. Part of me wants to check on her (I haven't checked on her facebook or twitter in over a month) to see if she has moved on, but then I also know that she probably has and don't want to get hurt seeing her with another guy.
ReadMyThread Posted November 29, 2012 Posted November 29, 2012 This NC business is tough.. Part of me wants to check on her (I haven't checked on her facebook or twitter in over a month) to see if she has moved on, but then I also know that she probably has and don't want to get hurt seeing her with another guy. Hell yeah it is. Nobody sad it's easy lol. But when time goes by it gets easier. You need to stop checking on her man. Sadly to say, SHE HAS MOVED ON ALREADY. That's why she dumped you. DO NOT! I REPEAT DO NOT LOOK AT HER FACEBOOK!!!! I scarred myself for life with what I saw the last time I checked my ex's Facebook. Yeah I got my closure (left me for the same guy she did the first time) but man, the pain, it wasn't worth it. I then deactivated my account and had my sister change my password to her password that I don't know so now I can't re activate my account without her doing it. Best idea I ever had. If I hadn't I'd still be looking at her page and his today because it was an addiction. Even though it was hurting Everytime I was looking I kept looking because it was an addiction. Hell, I want to check her Facebook RIGHT NOW! And his! But like I said, I can't now. I don't know my password lol. Man I really want to check it now that imtalking about it :/. I want to know if they made it official on there. ****! Don't do it! If you see whose she is with you will compare yourself to him and drive yourself crazy. You will think abkit all te things teu do together while your all alone. You with picture them having sex together and it will make you sick. Just read the threads I had been makin lately. You DO NOT want to end up like me. Lol. Sadly, I wish I was in YOUR situation rather than mine.
Author na49 Posted November 29, 2012 Author Posted November 29, 2012 Thanks a lot ReadMyThread. I've been keeping up with your threads lol, it's so nice to hear from people who are going through the same thing as me. I know what you mean, I haven't checked her facebook in over a month. She blocked me. I went crazy and made a fake account just to search her and look at what she was doing. Luckily I deactivated that account before I saw anything really hurtful (her with another guy), and don't plan on logging back on. (I should've changed the password to something I wouldn't remember, but oh well why bother doing it now?) Do you suggest I block her number?
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 (edited) It will slowly go away. I went through the same burden. But I did look at my exes fb...dies hoping she'd call and be sorry for cheating. I'm over that now. Basically I decided within myself that I did not wanna take the chance to see her happy or with anyone -especially the Guy she messed with. Unfortunately she has five or more fbs so its hard getting them all...LOL...but generally I find my happiness at a higher level without wanting to look. Oh yes and block her #. It will only serve to block your progress by keeping your hopes that one day she will send a calling card. She would still own your emotions...least hope. Edited November 30, 2012 by Toddbt12y1
Author na49 Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 I've been telling myself the same thing and I've been so good for a month. I'm afraid to see something but I know that I won't if I don't go look. I guess I just felt a minor setback. I know she's over me and I know I should block her number. My ex cheated on me too, so seeing her with the guy she cheated on me with would do nothing for me but make me feel terrible. I seriously feel like as soon as I'm not seeing her at school, I can move on quicker.
ReadMyThread Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Thanks a lot ReadMyThread. I've been keeping up with your threads lol, it's so nice to hear from people who are going through the same thing as me. I know what you mean, I haven't checked her facebook in over a month. She blocked me. I went crazy and made a fake account just to search her and look at what she was doing. Luckily I deactivated that account before I saw anything really hurtful (her with another guy), and don't plan on logging back on. (I should've changed the password to something I wouldn't remember, but oh well why bother doing it now?) Do you suggest I block her number? For sure. Yeah it always is good to hear from people going through this. Having people to talk to about it who knows how much it hurts. It's good she blocked you! Look at that as a good thing. Lol man if you went crazy and made a while new account just to see what she was doing, I think you should do what I did and have someone YOU TRUST change your password to theirs and tell them not to give it to you for 3 months lol. You wouldn't regret it. Just imagine Facebook doesn't even exist right now lol. For the next 3 months. Imagine we are still in the MySpace days lol. Now, about blocking her number. Well in the end your going to either block her number or not no matter what anybody tells you but I"ll let you know what is better for you. Blocking her number is better for you man. If you block her number, you will not have that feeling of looking at your phone expecting there is going to be texts or calls from her and will know that she cant do that. Also you won't receive BREADCRUMBS calls or texts if there are any. Say she would text you "I miss you" RIGHT NOW but ALSO didn't want to be with you and she JUST misses you. That would mess with your head soooooo bad and set you back so much. If you were to block her number you wouldn't have I worry about this. Blocking her number is the better thing to do for YOU but I mean if you REALLY think this girl will want to be with you again it's your decision to do so or not. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 College correct? Yes hopeful that burden will be removed from your life. Eventually it will pass. Believe it or not...going out with buddies, video games with friends and family...or randomly flirting with girls, even if you don't wish to be with them...all helps. When you get another girl: you won't even care about the ex. But the ex might oneday spy and see a happy you and realize a thing or two ;p tho I'd not be hopeful on that.
ReadMyThread Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I've been telling myself the same thing and I've been so good for a month. I'm afraid to see something but I know that I won't if I don't go look. I guess I just felt a minor setback. I know she's over me and I know I should block her number. My ex cheated on me too, so seeing her with the guy she cheated on me with would do nothing for me but make me feel terrible. I seriously feel like as soon as I'm not seeing her at school, I can move on quicker. Oh I didn't know she cheated on you! Yes! BLOCK HER NUMBER AND DO IT RIGHT NOW!!! Lol. RUN! This girl does not derserve you and doesn't even derserve to talk to you anymore about anything.
Author na49 Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 College correct? Yes hopeful that burden will be removed from your life. Eventually it will pass. Believe it or not...going out with buddies, video games with friends and family...or randomly flirting with girls, even if you don't wish to be with them...all helps. When you get another girl: you won't even care about the ex. But the ex might oneday spy and see a happy you and realize a thing or two ;p tho I'd not be hopeful on that. I actually have been talking to girls, who are better looking and better listeners than her lol. The unrealistic side of me is the side that doesn't want to block the number. My brain is telling me to just go ahead and block it. If she's ever desperate to talk to me she would find a way to contact me, but I know that probably won't happen. The only things she'd tell me would be breadcrumbs stuff like she "misses me" (yeah right, you only miss how loyal and there for you I was so now that no one else will listen to you, you call me because you think I'm always available and never busy) lol there I go venting. Thanks guys. 1
Author na49 Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 Damn I'm so afraid that I'm going to crack and check on her facebook after not doing it for a month. How do I get rid of this feeling? I had no interest in doing this for weeks, why do I feel like doing it now??
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Thought of her. Talked about her on this forum...brought up feelings. Play a video game...or something. Talk to someone, anything bur look at her...try working out as a hobby if you don't. Makes ya feel good..or martial arts. I say this,because exercise helps keep you relaxed. a lil off topic sry, just giving ideas for future use.
ReadMyThread Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 Damn I'm so afraid that I'm going to crack and check on her facebook after not doing it for a month. How do I get rid of this feeling? I had no interest in doing this for weeks, why do I feel like doing it now?? SEE! Lol. It's an addiction man! Want to know something really funny!? I just checked my ex's page and the guy she left me for lol. The addiction will never end. You want to check her page because you haven't done it in so long so your curiousity builds up and keeps building. And your not getting what you want (checking her fb) so it bothers you more everyday. Like i said, only way to put an end to this is to have someone change your password and tell them to never give it to you and then deactivate you fb. It's the ony way. I just got done checking my ex's because me niece signed into her Facebook on my phone and I thought "hey now I can see what shes up to and of she still with dude.". Well, I sen what i seen. Don't know how I feel about it yet lol. Now I'm deleting the Facebook app from my phone so this can't happen anymore.
Author na49 Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 I guess so. She's blocked me already, so I don't know if I need to delete/change the password of my account. If anything I need to get rid of the fake account (I deactivated it already, but could still technically log into it again) This is so annoying, I had zero interest in doing this until today. I'm fighting the urge so hard right now lol. I know that nothing I see would help me and I'd feel terrible afterwards, probably get a little depressed and very angry. Not things that I want.
Toddbt12y1 Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 I would forget the fake profile. Don't bother fully erasing it. Temptation is hard to fight...best advice is to run from temptation, facing it brings defeat..which brings sorrow.
er1n Posted November 30, 2012 Posted November 30, 2012 it goes away slowly and you will feel painful nostalgia most likely especially if there were a lot of emotions invested. But the best way to get over someone is to find another. Ever notice when you are into someone- like realllly into them, everyone else seems to disappear and you don't even think twice about them? You dont necessarily NEED another person, but sometimes it helps you move on. I know its hard. Me -Id just go out and enjoy my single life and spend a ton of days/nights with friends having fun. Everyone's different though
Author na49 Posted November 30, 2012 Author Posted November 30, 2012 I do find that being really into someone makes you forget about everyone else. I don't know if I want to try jumping into another relationship right now. I want to focus on meeting more people and working on myself. I find that I'm too nice, and sometimes I don't feel as confident as I should.
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