pinkranger Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=darkblue][/color] I have been pondering if i should tell my boyfriend that i loved him for a few weeks. We have done so much, had weekend getaways in the romantic gatlinburg and seem like we are so compatible. He says things like im never getting married for a long time and im way to young and this and that. He was deployed to Iraq and his ex-girlfriend was cheating on him, and they broke up as soon as he returned. HE was in love with her. I told him that i was starting to fall in love with him and he said i like you alot and im just having a hard time with committment right now, we have been seeing each other for about six months now. I have been married twice before, first one ended because of physical abuse and the second because it was a total rebound marriage and i didnt even know him. I have a three year old little girl who i love dearly and she spends weekends with her father. She likes my boyfriend to. How am i suppose to feel. I dont want to rush him, but i do feel like i love this man and i was just wondering what he may be thinking or how i should be feeling? Some one please help me. I feel as though i got my heart broken and dont know what to do?
Girlie Posted August 9, 2004 Posted August 9, 2004 I'm so sorry, sweetie. That sucks, and I know, because I've recently been there. Not hearing I love you back when you say it hurts like hell. But you know where you stand now and all that's left is to make a decision based on that. You want a commitment. He doesn't. And you said yourself that he's even mentioned never wanting to get married. Sounds like it's pretty clear where he's at. Definitely don't push. He'd only end up resenting you, most likely. My advice is to take him at his word for the time being and assume that he's not ready to fall in love and that he may never want to get married, just like he said. If you can live with that, fine. If not, then perhaps you need to step back or move on. I know it hurts that he's not ready to dive in like you are, but he's not. And you probably shouldn't be either. At the very least, take a step back. For your own sake, don't be willing to jump into a commitment so quickly yourself.
eyehatesmilin Posted August 10, 2004 Posted August 10, 2004 yea that is really sucky. but lets think about the sit that he was in. he is of course gonna be skeptical of relationships bcuz of his recent ex. this has nothing to do w/ u but it of course takes time to get over all of that. there also could be the thing about him having a new family. this could scare a guy. i know that when my b/f n i got 2gethr it took months b4 we were considered "exclusive" bcuz he didnt like relationships bcuz of his exes cheating on him. he also knew that i had been married and had kids and was a lil scared of it all coming 2gethr. dont worry tho. i think that u should give it time. i think that everything will eventually come around. u know how u feel n he now knows as well. if he sees that ur different then he will more than likely return the feelings have for him. i think that u should definately not rush things cuz that will only scare him away. best of luck!
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